At parties, unexpected situations often arise, but one of our readers took it to another level. She attended a party with her toddler without informing anyone beforehand, while her friends had hoped for a peaceful evening without the presence of a crying baby.
You should have called and told them you couldn't find a babysitter and asked if it was ok to bring her to an, obviously, adult party. I'd have told "Sorry you couldn't find someone and we'll see you when you can."
I wouldn't have had you leave but, I'd have made sure to ask if you had a babysitter the next time I asked you to a party with no kids. I also wouldn't have paid attention to her. (No kids, on purpose.)
We appreciate you reaching out to us! We understand the pain you’re feeling, and we’re here to offer some helpful tips that might assist you.
Share with your friends about how their words and actions have affected you. Provide specific examples of instances where you felt hurt or upset by their behavior. This clarity will help them understand where they may have been insensitive and what adjustments are necessary. Additionally, communicate your needs clearly, whether it’s seeking empathy or requesting changes in how they interact with you in certain situations.
It’s disappointing that your friends aren’t fond of children, and their behavior towards you was inappropriate. However, it would have been considerate to inform them beforehand that you’d be bringing your toddler along. Offer an apology for bringing an unexpected guest. While it’s wonderful that you adore your daughter, it’s important to acknowledge that not everyone may share the same level of affection towards her.
We know how exciting it can be to jump into a fun event as soon as you get invited, but now that you’ve got a little one, things have changed. It’s all about planning ahead! Next time you’re invited to something similar, it’s worth asking if it’s a kid-friendly affair. If not, you might want to think about hiring a babysitter for the day. And if babies are welcome, just make sure you’ve got all the essentials packed.
Many social gatherings may not be ideal for children due to the atmosphere and adult behavior present. However, leaving your child at home isn’t always feasible, and you still desire opportunities for enjoyment without staying confined indoors. Joining communities of fellow parents who empathize with your challenges and are willing to accommodate your circumstances could be a viable solution, ensuring that nobody has to compromise their comfort.
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I would have stayed home. If I couldn't find a babysitter, I would've called my friends, tell them I can't make it and tell them why. If they said "bring the baby", I would've gone; if they said "we understand; maybe next time", i would've stayed home.
I wouldn't have brought my baby without asking first. NO1 wants to hang out with a baby at a party. Especially at 22. I know I was that mom (19) so I either got a sitter or didn't go....
