Imagine planning a family trip with your in-laws, expecting some fun and relaxation. But instead, you find yourself facing unexpected challenges tied to social status and cultural norms. This young woman finds herself grappling with tough decisions influenced by family expectations and societal pressures.
"I went on a family trip with my in-laws a couple of weeks back. My mother-in-law has the idea that I'm not very cultured or well-mannered because my family isn't as well-off as hers. She thinks I lack proper etiquette just because we're from different backgrounds.
Originally, the family didn't want me to join their plans, but my husband really pushed for it and practically begged them to invite me. It's not just me either; even my brother-in-law's girlfriend wasn't invited."
"When we got to the hotel, they made plans to go to this expensive restaurant for dinner. My husband didn't tell me about it until the last minute after he was already dressed up. When I asked him what he was up to, he casually mentioned that he and his family were going out to eat, but I wasn't invited.
His excuse? His mom thought I wouldn't be comfortable with the type of food and how to behave at such a fancy place, so she thought it would be better if I stayed at the hotel for dinner. Instead of arguing, I just let him go and then packed my bags and left, catching the first flight home."
"After I left, my husband freaked out and called me a bunch of times. He said I was being unreasonable and ungrateful, and he even accused me of making him look bad in front of his family, even though he begged me to come along on the trip. When he got back home, he wouldn't even talk to me and just ignored me. And to make matters worse, his family indirectly criticized me on Facebook for leaving."
I think you should think long and hard before you bring children into this situation. Imagine if they would have treated you like that in front of your children? I think everyone is right, it was up to your husband to stand up for you. Someone who loved you would be excited to share the new experience with you. He should have simply said I wouldn't be comfortable there without my wife.
I agree with the comments that you don't want to bring a child into this relationship. Your husband went right along with his mother and didn't stand up for you AT ALL!
The only thing you did wrong was to go home, instead of finding a last minute deal on another vacation like a cruise or a resort in the same area, and just have a relaxing vacation by yourself.
I think you should get out now . It will most likly get worst .
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He isn't worth it! If he can't stand up to his parents and say you go with or he doesn't go, then he's a spoiled selfish disgusting person!! You should be number one in his life. He married you... Not his parents!! They should stand up for and accept you as his wife... they should be ashamed for being so uppity and goody two shoes type people. I've been in that situation and "high class snobbery" is disgusting and beneath me!! I won't accept it and noone else should eityher.... NOONE IS BETTER THAN YOU OR ANYONE ELSE< I DON"T CARE HOW RICH THEY ARE OR HOW MANY FANCY CARS OR PLANES THE OWN OR MANSIONS!! WE ARE ALL GODS CHILDREN AND NONE BETTER THAN THE NEXT!!
