My Husband Ordered Me to Stop Breastfeeding Our Baby Because of My Sister-in-Law
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It's always nice to have a kind neighbor who dearly cares for us. But that's not the case for a Reddit user who shared her unpleasant situation. At first, she was more than happy to watch for her neighbor's kids, but over time, she felt like her neighbor only took her kindness for granted.
I (38F) have a neighbor, we’ll call her Sara (38F). I’m married with 2 girls (8 & 11), and she has 2 boys (8 & 12). Sara is married, but her husband travels a lot for work, and she works from home. I am a teacher, so I have school breaks and summers "off." <strong>Over winter break, Sara’s kids kept coming over to see if my kids could play. ("Play" means they have been sent over because they’re annoying their mom, and she’s trying to work).
Backstory: the kids were friends when they were younger, but as they got older, they don’t really have much in common, and they’ve drifted apart. Her kids go to a parochial school and my kids go to public school, so they don’t even have teachers or classmates in common. They don’t have a lot in common anymore, and when they do play, Sara’s kids fight, a lot! (With each other and with my kids).
One day over winter break, the younger one came to the door to see if my kids could play, and I told him they didn’t want to play right now. Sara sent me a text saying that she was on a work call and could really use some time with the boys out of the house. I caved and told my girls to just try and find something they could do together.
Ten minutes later, my oldest came upstairs crying, saying that one of the boys made a nasty comment about how boring our house was and that it was dumb that I wouldn’t let him play Xbox. (The Xbox is my husband’s, and it’s in our family room, where I was doing laundry and watching a show). I told the boys that if they were bored, they were more than welcome to leave.
Now it’s almost spring break, and Sara just asked if I could watch the boys for two days because she has two busy workdays, and I’m "off work." I told her "no" because we would be on vacation in Florida visiting family. She said okay and "jokingly" said, "I guess I’ll just hit you up in the summer." I replied and said that I will NOT be babysitting her kids over the summer. (True emergencies, sure).
I said, "I’m sorry, but just because I’m not at school during the summer does not mean that I am your free childcare." Yes, I don’t physically go to work over the summer, but I take online classes for my master’s and I teach online summer school. Meaning, I am also working from home.
She blew up at me and told me I should help her because she’s alone a lot and now that the kids are older, it’s harder to keep them entertained all day. I told her that I didn’t care if the kids played together outside during the summer, but I was not going to be a caretaker or responsible for her kids unless she was going to compensate me.
I tried explaining to her that the kids do not get along the way that they used to, my kids don’t fight with each other the way her kids fight with each other, and my kids don’t really want them to be at our house all the time. Now she’s pissed and not speaking to me, and her oldest told my oldest that I’m not a good person because I won’t help my neighbor.
A woman, 35, fell in love with her married neighbor. However, her impression of the neighbor changed after she tried to babysit his kids. She shared her emotional story with us and desperately needs advice.