6 Steps to Pull Yourself Together and Overcome a Tough Childhood

Some of us grew up dealing with tough stuff like strict parents, tragic moments, or feeling distant from emotions. But those rough memories don’t have to control our whole lives.

Getting over a hard childhood is a challenge, but it’s totally possible and so worth it. Think of it as a journey where you figure out more about yourself, find your own strengths, and unlock all the awesome things you can do. Along the way, you’re setting yourself up to live your absolute best life.

How is the Law of Attraction related to overcoming a toxic childhood?

The Law of Attraction states that when you focus on positive things, you’ll manifest more of them, and the same goes for negative things as well. If you felt vulnerable as a kid, when you become an adult, your “inner child” will seek some kind of validation from any unavailable source or you may just feel numb. This leads to unstable relationships or isolation which can attract more of the bad stuff later.

So, to fix this, you’ll need to figure out the “why” in these patterns. This also helps in sorting out your belief system and putting an end to such behavior. Of course, this may take you some time to deal with. But once you do this, you can regain your authentic self by following these steps below.

1. Allow yourself to be close to people.

As your childhood trauma forced you to live your life in survival mode, you may find it challenging to get close to people. This leads to isolation as you grow up. So, in order to combat this, you need to allow yourself to get close to people and to let them see you as you are. Being your authentic self is the fastest way to get rid of shame and to remind yourself that you’re lovable.

2. Look after your physical and mental health.

When you’ve been through childhood trauma, it’s common to subconsciously feel undeserving of care or to covertly keep yourself in a state of self-rejection. No matter what you believe, always treat yourself as you’d treat your best friend. Look after your health by investing in quality sleep, a good diet, and exercise. For good mental health, you need to make time for emotional release — you can consult a therapist to guide you through it.

3. Act fearless.

Here, you need to do something entirely different than what your fear-based and protective self would do. For instance, if you always keep your guard up, bring it down and allow people to get close to you. If you’re short-tempered, take a deep breath and act with compassion. If you do everything yourself, let others help you. This allows you to grow and transform.

4. Allow yourself to trust people and be supported.

This is one of the best ways to get rid of guilt, shame, and blame. All you need to do is find a group of friends who will love and support you. This may take a tad bit of effort, but it will be helpful in the long run if you do it right. No matter where you are right now, you need to allow yourself to seek out others, ask for support if you need it, and reach out if you want to be heard. It’s worth it.

5. Learn to accept and let go.

Accepting your trauma doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to embrace it, like it, or agree with it. Acceptance is more about how you deal with it. You have 2 options: either let it rule your life or let it go. Letting go doesn’t mean it completely vanishes, it just means that you disallow your bad memories to stop you from living a good life today.

6. Be gentle on yourself.

When you’ve had a tough childhood, you may feel like your life and habits are totally out of your control. We understand that it takes a lot of time to let go of those heart-wrenching feelings. So, be patient with yourself, honor where you are right now, and trust the process. There will be many little victories as you recover that will help you win the war of healing from your childhood trauma.