I Kicked a Pregnant Woman Out of My Seat and I Was Right

Awkward social dilemmas hit when you least expect them—like when you’re buckled into your airplane seat, ready for takeoff, and suddenly asked to give it up. One of our readers found herself in exactly this position and was left wrestling with guilt. Should she have moved? Was she selfish for staying put? Let’s break it down and get real about the unspoken rules of air travel etiquette.

Situations like this happen more often than you might think. It’s not always about who’s right or wrong, but rather how we handle them. If you ever find yourself in a similar dilemma, here are a few suggestions to navigate it more smoothly.

Before boarding

Choose your seat wisely—If you have medical needs, consider booking extra legroom seats or notifying the airline in advance to minimize the chance of conflicts.

Check in early — Arriving early allows you to settle in without worrying about someone taking your seat.

Stay firm, but respectful

When faced with someone challenging your needs, it’s important to remain calm, even if you feel judged or misunderstood. Politely assert your right to the seat without becoming defensive, “I understand your situation, but my back pain is severe and requires me to sit in the aisle seat.”

Empathy in conflict

It’s easy to let emotions escalate, but try to empathize with the other person’s position as well. In your case, the pregnant woman was likely trying to get more comfort. Acknowledge that, but don’t back down from your own needs. Sometimes, just a simple, “I understand you’re trying to be comfortable, but I’m in a lot of pain,” can soften the situation.

Maintain confidence

Even if other passengers or the woman’s husband react negatively, remember you have a valid reason for your actions. People may not always understand chronic pain, but that doesn’t invalidate your needs.

Reflect, but don’t overthink

After the event, it’s natural to replay the situation in your head. However, remind yourself that you acted in accordance with your needs and rights. The woman’s sudden pain didn’t change the validity of your request. Sometimes, things just unfold in unexpected ways.

Don’t take it personally

In these situations, it’s easy to internalize the negativity others project onto you, but try not to take their reactions personally. Her husband’s scolding and the glares from other passengers likely stemmed from their own discomfort with the situation, not a reflection of your actions.

Consider the bigger picture

Once the immediate tension is over, focus on the fact that people around you—whether you realize it or not—are often just trying to find their own comfort zones too. In these moments, having patience and understanding for everyone’s unspoken struggles can make the difference between a stressful flight and a smoother journey.

Sometimes things just don’t go according to plan. It’s all about handling the situation with grace and accepting that some outcomes are beyond your control.