As you said that you have the means,ensure anything you leave to your grandson is in a trust til he is 25,maybe get financial advice.
This is to ensure daughter in law has no input.
Carry on and give gifts you want.
If daughter in law does a similar nasty thing,bite your pride,and be brave,laugh it off. You can do it,laugh it off,pretend.Get home and can be upset,but maybe have a stiff drink and try not to let it get to you.
You can do it,wish you the best.
I Made My Grandson a Modest Birthday Gift, Things Took a Disturbing Turn
Many grandparents feel pressure to shower their grandchildren with expensive gifts, especially on birthdays and special occasions. In today’s world, where material things often seem to matter most, it can be hard to stick to simple values like thoughtfulness and effort. But not everyone believes that love should come with a price tag. Recently, we received a letter from a grandmother who chose a different path—and her story sparked strong reactions.
Stella’s letter:
Dear Bright Side,
For my grandson’s 12th birthday, I decided not to splurge. I knitted him a sweater. I have the money and the means to get him any gift he desires, but I also believe that we shouldn’t spoil kids.
I attended the big party, and as expected, everyone had brought nice gifts. When the moment came, my son turned pale as his son opened my gift in front of everyone.
But then the real surprise came when my daughter-in-law called the next day. She said, “You will love the surprise I have for you! We’re inviting you to dinner tonight!”
So I went there at 8:00 P.M. I entered the house and froze. The house was covered in yarn—every color imaginable. It was everywhere: on the dining table, on the furniture, on the floor. She must have bought a hundred skeins.
My daughter-in-law turned to me and said, “Since it seems that you like knitting so much, I thought this could be a nice gift for you!”
I was furious. I know that my daughter-in-law felt my gift was beneath her expectations. But this was taking it too far. I am still feeling disturbed by it all.
Do you have any advice for me?
Yours,
Stella
Hi Stella!
Thank you for opening up about your story. Below are 4 pieces of advice, each addressing a different angle of the situation you’re facing.
Address the situation directly—but gently.


If you feel deeply hurt, consider having a private, calm conversation with your daughter-in-law. Acknowledge the effort she made, but express how the gesture made you feel.
For example, you could say, “I know you meant it as a gift, but being surprised with so much yarn—after I put a lot of thought and care into that sweater—made me feel a bit mocked rather than appreciated.” This approach invites an honest dialogue without escalating the tension.
Reframe the yarn as a positive gesture and take control of the narrative.
Even if you suspect mockery, you could choose to embrace the yarn as a blessing. Take it literally—as a gift for your craft—and use it to create more sweaters, perhaps even one for your grandson’s next birthday.
This flips the script and allows you to reclaim your dignity while subtly reinforcing that your knitting is meaningful and valuable, not laughable.
Speak to your son privately to gauge the family dynamic.
Your son’s reaction at the party—turning pale—suggests he may have anticipated or feared his wife’s judgment. Having a quiet, supportive conversation with him could reveal more about the family dynamic and whether your daughter-in-law’s behavior reflects deeper issues.
This can help you decide whether to address things further or let them go, depending on whether he’s willing or able to support your position.
Set clear emotional boundaries going forward.
If this incident crossed a line for you, it’s okay to take a step back emotionally from trying to impress or please your daughter-in-law. Continue to attend family events and show love to your grandson, but give yourself permission not to overextend or feel obligated to “prove” your worth through gifts.
This approach helps preserve your peace without direct confrontation—your presence and quiet confidence will speak volumes.
Here’s another story from one of our readers. Melinda refused to take her pregnant daughter to the hospital—an unexpected decision that might seem shocking at first, but she had her reason, and she explained it here.
Comments
Now you don't have to buy yarn! Plus, I don't think a pre teen wants a sweater but if you made one for me I'd love it, but I'm 65
Were it me, I'd make sure rhe DIL got something as a gift that was knitted with the yarn she bought.
Your DIL sounds rotten. However. I don't get your idea of " spoiling children" . You couldn't have given him a sweater and something fun? Did you want his birthday cake made out of shredded wheat too? I'm curious if you have other grandkids and what you get for them too. I would also like to hear what your son thinks.
Your daughter-in-law and son are corrupting your grandchildren's perceptions of what's valuable and what's not. If my family member made me anything a blanket a sweater a scarf gloves anything I take that to pride and I hold it close to my heart cuz they took the time and yarn's not cheap. there's way more thought that goes into a knitted sweater that fits a child that are the right colors of the kid likes and the amount of hours you put into that sweater the kids will never know the meaning of love and care. They're going to learn that money makes them happy and money means love and unfortunately until the parents get sick of their attitudes because they think money buys love they're going to have a tough role ahead of them. And it's the parent's fault if they can't teach their kids respect of their elders and appreciation for a gift that took hours to make they got a lot more learning to do!

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