I get allowing an adult child to move back in because you don't want them to be homeless, but doing his laundry and cooking and cleaning for him? My sons are 15 and 16 and they do their own laundry. In fact, the agitator in my washer broke last week and my husband is waiting on a part, so my sons have been hand washing their own clothes. It still spins, just wont agitate to actually wash the clothes, so i showed them once how to hand wash then put their clothes in the machine on spin cycle, and then it can go into the dryer. I literally only had to show them once, and they do it all on their own. In fact, one son said he was going to continue hand washing because his clothes come out cleaner. They clean up after themselves without being told. Yes, my husband and i cook dinner for the family, but my sons clean the kitchen after dinner, and my 10 year old daughter cleans off the table, and picks up the dining room. All three of my kids also make their own breakfast in the morning and they pack their own lunches for school. On weekends, the whole family gets together and we clean the house and do yardwork after running whatever errands we need to. Then as a reward for all of us for our hardwork, we usually try to do something fun as a family on sundays. It is not hard to teach your children to care for themselves and the home. Im mexican, so i started all of my kids off as toddlers by letting them help me load dishes and laundry, and by helping to pick up any toys or trash. Its a very normal thing in iur culture to have children help in managing the home. In mexico, youll see children help mom with cooking and cleaning, and even going to work with dad. If a toddler can learn how to do it, a grown man can. This lady coddled ger son when he was little (never do that with boys btw), and then she coddled him when he moved back in, and now she can't understand why he refuses to be an active member of the household.
