I Want to Give Birth to My Best Friend's Baby - My Husband Reacted With an Unexpected Threat

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Dealing with the complexities of human relationships can be tough, particularly when friendship and marriage clash. Recently, a woman opened up about her struggles, detailing how her husband objected to her decision to stand by her best friend and even resorted to using a painful threat. Seeking advice from Bright Side, she poured her heart out in a letter, hoping to find a solution to this sensitive situation.

Yes, you have promised her to be a surrogate, but did you think about how your husband feels? He would have probably wanted the first child to be your own..
He has every right to be angry, you neglected him as if he didn't exist and made a huge decision yourself.
Don't be surprised if he leaves you because you jumped on this without thinking. Say there are complications and you can't have more children, what happens then? Then you stand there, you have given away your chance to become a parent. Will it be worth all the sacrifice? Your friend can probably find a surrogate mother who has done this a number of times and knows this better. Just telling your friend that you have to choose your marriage or having a child with someone else... The choice isn't that hard, and IF she really is a friend, she understands that you want to keep your marriage... or?

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Thanks for reaching out to us, Sarah. We understand how challenging it must be to navigate between meeting the needs of both your best friend and your husband. Here are some tailored suggestions to assist you in gaining clarity on the matter.

Prioritize emotional support.

Sit down with your husband and have an open and honest conversation about your feelings, concerns, and the reasons behind your decision to be a surrogate for Tania. Listen to his perspective and try to understand his fears and reservations. Discuss how you both can support each other through this process while also respecting each other’s wishes and boundaries.

Recognize that both you and your husband may be experiencing a range of emotions throughout this process, including fear, uncertainty, and even resentment. Make time to support each other emotionally and validate each other’s feelings.

Involve Tania in the decision-making process.

Keep Tania actively involved in the decision-making process and ensure she understands and respects the dynamics of your relationship with your husband. Encourage open communication between all parties involved to address any concerns or misunderstandings and find mutually agreeable solutions. Tania’s understanding and support can help alleviate tension and foster a sense of unity and cooperation among everyone involved.

Consider the long-term impact.

Reflect on the potential long-term consequences of your decision to be a surrogate, both for your marriage and your relationship with Tania. Consider how your husband’s objections and the threat of divorce may impact your future together and your ability to maintain a supportive and fulfilling relationship with Tania. Balance your desire to help your friend with the need to prioritize your marriage and emotional well-being. It’s important to weigh the pros and cons carefully and make a decision that aligns with your values and priorities.

Seek professional guidance.

Consider seeking guidance from a therapist or counselor experienced in relationship dynamics. A neutral third party can facilitate constructive communication between you and your husband, helping you both better understand each other’s viewpoints and navigate any conflicts or uncertainties. Professional support can provide invaluable insight and strategies for finding common ground and moving forward as a united front.

Consider legal consultation.

Given the gravity of the situation and your husband’s threat of divorce, it may be prudent to seek legal advice from a family law attorney specializing in surrogacy. Understand your legal rights and responsibilities regarding surrogacy, as well as the potential implications for your marriage. A legal expert can help you navigate the legal complexities involved and provide guidance on protecting your interests and preserving the integrity of your relationship with your husband.

Navigating such a deeply personal and emotionally charged situation can undoubtedly be challenging.
In this article, you’ll find another woman’s letter detailing her predicament, where her husband unexpectedly changed their decision not to have children after a particular event and clandestinely tried to impregnate her.

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Very big betrayal of your partnership. Give your marriage a 50/50 chance at best. Very selfish on your part not to consider his feelings and opinion is such a huge matter. Any other secrets.

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Your husbands reaction was to threaten divorce is something you should look into, because from now on anything you want to do that he disagrees with...a divorce would be a given. He sounds like he hasn't been in this marriage 100%, if that's where he went with your decision to be the surrogate.

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Yes, you have promised her to be a surrogate, but did you think about how your husband feels? He would have probably wanted the first child to be your own..
He has every right to be angry, you neglected him as if he didn't exist and made a huge decision yourself.
Don't be surprised if he leaves you because you jumped on this without thinking. Say there are complications and you can't have more children, what happens then? Then you stand there, you have given away your chance to become a parent. Will it be worth all the sacrifice? Your friend can probably find a surrogate mother who has done this a number of times and knows this better. Just telling your friend that you have to choose your marriage or having a child with someone else... The choice isn't that hard, and IF she really is a friend, she understands that you want to keep your marriage... or?

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