I Won’t Sacrifice My Last Good Years Because My Son Refuses to Grow Up

Stand your ground.
Tell him that the reason it's so important to you is because you sacrificed your wishes his entire life, so he could have the best, but now is your time, and you're spending your own money.
Go see your doctor and assessed right now for mental clarity, because he's building a case to take over your finances before you can buy the cabin.
Put everything you own and all your money in a living trust that you DO NOT own, but control completely. He won't be able to do anything about what you buy when you buy on behalf of a trust you control.

Change your will and make sure you call relatives and set the naritive. Don't reward his bad behavior.

Absolutely shocking and egoistisch fm yr son. I hope somebody will tell him this!

Tell him to get bent. My mother would slap me even as an adult for acting like such a brat. You've given enough now cut the cord and let him sink or swim. Just a heads up HE WILL SINK, HE WILL LOSE HIS WIFE, HE WILL DRIVE YOU AWAY..... Then he will turn around in the same breath and blame you. Block the number and count waves. What kind of douchebag says you made an enemy to their parents. My father raised my brother and i as a single parent and even still I wouldn't ever dare speak to my mother that way, and my pops is my best friend who I work with daily for much less than I'm worth because I love hanging out with the guy 😅 hell I'm working tomorrow for free on day 8 in a row just to give him a hand when he has been off all week cause I was on a side project. Looking forward to it too

You worked hard all your life and retirement should be what you want, not what he wants! He is being a greedy selfish son! Don’t give in.

Sounds like he has issues with what's yours and what's his. In no way shape or form would I give away my dream just to satisfy his greed. You deserve respect not being treated like his own personal bank because he thinks the world revolves around his wants and needs. Don't feel guilty for doing something for yourself. Don't give in. He needs to grow up and stop expecting the world to give him what he wants. Enjoy your life and don't feel guilty for doing it.

Make sure he can't access your money. Talk with a lawyer and other family. Be careful that he doesn't very to say your loosing your mind and wants power of attorney.

What you need to ask your son is, are you going to give all your money to your children? If the answer is no, then you need to ask him why he thinks he should get yours. Stand your ground. Also ask him if you give him all your money will I be living with you? Or do you plan on putting me in a nursing home? Then explain to him it is time to grow up and quit depending on your parents.

My parents spent their money on cruises and I never once felt “betrayed.” The difference? They didn’t raise me to expect anything. Whatever happened in that family started way before this cabin conversation.

Your son is an ungrateful POS you did a great job time for you to do you mom he's already destroyed yals relationship

Just try to think about your son, Sharon. How can you waste all your money on a cabot when your child is clearly struggling? stop being selfish and remember you’re a mother and a good mother puts her kids first, not her hobbies.

Everyone’s team Sharon but that “you just made an enemy” line sounds like something said in the heat of the moment. We’ve all said dumb things when we’re hurt. Doesn’t make him a monster, makes him human.

Let’s be real. She says she helped with college and a car down payment but was she one of those moms who constantly create the entitlement they complain about later?

At 40 with a good job he should absolutely know better. But also—68 is not that old anymore. She could live another 25 years. Is one beach cabin really worth losing your son over? Some things you can’t take back.

Call lawyer, take back EVERYTHING from him. Let he know the consequences of his act. A brat won't grow up with responsibility unless they get punished from their wrongdoing. And grown up brat need to get slammed with FACT AND LAW TO KNOW THEIR MISTAKES. ALWAYS HAPPENS.

Do YOU plan on falling apart EVERY TIME HE WHINES? THEN tell him NO, NO, NO, NO, AS MANY TIMES AS YOU NEED TO. YOU can't change anything that he has already done or said, but YOU CAN CHANGE HIS ABILITY TO KEEP DOING IT. CUT HIM OFF FROM ALL CONTACT. Tell ALL family members AND friends, who try to convince you otherwise, they are cut off too. You DON'T OWE ANYONE, ANY EXPLANATIONS. MOVE on, OR put up with it until you give him EVERYTHING, and he puts you in a nursing home. Because YOU KNOW he has no plans to actually take care of you.