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Often, we envision a flawless wedding, yet reality doesn’t always align with our expectations. Unforeseen surprises, etched in the memories of both the newlyweds and guests, frequently arise. For example, the author of today’s story had a problem with a substantial amount of uninvited guests. But the trouble didn’t stop there...
I married my husband last weekend after about a year of planning. The ceremony went off perfectly, even with kids in the church.
Everything was going fine, the only hitch was that my in-laws invited about ten extra people without telling us. Not relatives or anything. Just friends of theirs we did not invite since we don’t know them. I did not notice them at the ceremony, and it wasn’t until the reception that there were issues.
There was no seating for them. Our best man and groomsmen found a folding table and chairs for them to sit at. There was food, we went with a buffet, but since we sent the tables to eat by number, and they didn’t have a number they were sent last after everything had been picked over.
My in-laws were embarrassed that their friends were being treated that way. I, very politely, asked them what they expected when they invited people without telling the people planning and paying for the wedding?
They said we needed to go apologize for their treatment. I said I would, but I would also explain that they had not actually been invited. If they wanted their guests told anything else, then they had to go explain.
They are upset with me. My husband has my back 100%. I think I could have been more gracious, but I also think it should not have fallen on us to deal with it.
The users commonly agree that this situation is unacceptable. People cannot just come to a celebration they weren’t invited to. By doing this, they cause force majeure situations that the organizers couldn’t be prepared for. Still, such cases happen every day. Some Redditors even shared their personal stories that are related:
As we see, such situations happen in many cases. To prevent this from happening, you may include the next phrases in your invitations to make sure the guests understand that they cannot bring more people with them.
Budget Restrictions:
Venue Restrictions:
As per experts, couples often need to invest between 200 and 300 hours to manage everything themselves, equivalent to a significant 20–38 days of full-time work. However, even with such extensive effort, many ceremonies don’t go as planned. Read more such wedding stories.