15 Double-Standards That Can Even Ruin Relationships in Perfect Families

Adults often tell children, “Do as I say, not as I do,” but they forget that the child will do things the way their parents do them. Child psychologists have outlined a lot of things that should be avoided to help your child become a happy and self-confident adult.
We at Bright Side chose a different way and collected examples of how parents undermine their own efforts when it comes to child-rearing.
1. They forbid their child to use a mobile phone and a tablet, and then spend all their free time staring at their own gadgets.

2. They teach their child to respect elderly people, while they don’t notice elderly people nearby who need help.
3. They demand respect and attention when they speak, while dismissing their own parents.
4. They tell their kids that they should eat healthy and consume vegetables and fruits, but they constantly snack on chips and chocolate.

Honestly it's okay, vegetables are healthy and parents deserve a treat once in a while too, as long as they share with their children.
5. They make their child read books, but they spend all their evenings watching TV.

6. They punish their kids when they use rude and abusive words, but the children learned these words from their parents.
7. They control their child’s obedience when it comes to traffic rules, but they ignore them themselves.

8. They insist that their children play sports, but they don’t care about their own physical shape.
9. They teach their child to be a successful leader, and forget about their own ambitions.

10. They only want to hear the truth from their child, but they don’t see a problem when they themselves lie.
11. They encourage their child to learn a foreign language, while they haven’t learned a single one.

It's harder to learn languages as an adult. I'm gratefull that my mother taught me languages since I was two, it's very important in life and honestly I doubt I would be able to learn a language as easily now. But I fully agree that putting to much pressure on a child is a bad idea, they should view language learning as a fun activity.
12. They forbid their children to talk with strangers, but they never miss a chance to chat with everyone.
13. They encourage their child to keep their space clean, but they don’t deal with their own mess for years.
14. They put their child to bed early, but they don’t care about getting a healthy amount of sleep themselves.
15. They forbid their children to gossip, but they never miss the opportunity to gossip with friends.

Which double standards in parenting have you noticed in your environment?
Comments
To be homest, some(actually many) parents are too Ignorant even believe these things... I have no word for them
#12 is nothing wrong. As children are still young and naive, they can't see who is creepy and who is a normal person. Children can easily end up being in danger, while adults can actually analyze and see who they can approach and who they better avoid.
I don't see anything wrong in teaching your child to be careful
Yes I agree. Of course that means though that in front of their children adults shouldn't just walk up to random people and say their name and address, but asking what kind of a dog it is isn't serious.
SHE'S WATCHING GAME OF THRONES XD
ARGH
broooooo my parents do almost all of these
Exactly! Children mirror their parents’ actions, so parents must set a good example for them.
For freaking real!!!!
MY PARENTS DO ALL OF THESE! Matter fact, my dad, said CAN'T say shut up, right? Then HE want to say shut up to ME! One time, my dad ran a FREAKING RED LIGHT, lucky he didn't get caught by the FLIPPING police! That's why he's so FLIPPING DUMB, that's he always need ME to repeat stuff, DANG!
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