I Gave My Daughter a Way More Expensive Gift Than My Son and I Wonder If I Did Something Wrong

Raising a child is no easy task. Not to mention doing it when there are siblings involved. Raising several kids at home usually makes the work a bit tougher. As a parent, you’re often walking on thin ice, trying to make sure you’re not doing anything that could spark a rivalry between your kids.

You don’t want any bad blood between family members, and most of all, you want to avoid making siblings feel left out. Well, that’s what happened with this family. Parents had a big issue that they don’t know how to solve.

The issue was raised, and these concerned parents sat down to talk with their son. As in any discussion, there were many explanations and disagreements. On the other hand, being a family, there is also a lot of love involved, so everyone wants to resolve the issue as soon as possible and in the best way. Let’s see why these three people may need a little more time to work it out.

A few suggestions for raising 2 or more happy siblings

  • Don’t compare siblings to each other or other children. You may think you are motivating them, but all they’re hearing is that their sibling is better than them and that you don’t love them as much. Set boundaries, but don’t mention other people. Even what you may see as a positive comparison can backfire.
  • Don’t take sides. When you side with one child against the other, even if you are 100% sure they’re right, you’re creating a rivalry. If they can’t articulate the problem correctly, both children will interpret your actions as a symbol of love given to the sibling who “won” the argument.
  • Encourage teamwork. Your children will be siblings for the rest of their lives. They’ll probably spend more time together than with you in the long run.
    That is why it is essential to foster a feeling of belonging. They should work as a team and look out for each other when things get tough. Look for opportunities to reward sibling teamwork at all times.
  • Don’t treat siblings as one. Enrolling them in the same activities or groups can be a mistake and even foster competition. Your children are different and unique. That’s a cause for celebration, so it’s better to help them explore their interests and talents. Invest time in discovering how to make them flourish.
  • Make sure they have enough personal space. Siblings share parents, toys, family time, and people’s attention. That’s a lot. Sleeping in the same room may not work for children with very different temperaments.
    It’s easier for them to have a private space, such as a tall closet, to keep special objects away from a younger sibling or separate beds, so they can be alone whenever they want.
  • Don’t jump in to solve issues. It’s normal for parents to want to avoid conflict and make sure children don’t fight. However, in doing so, you’re also depriving your children of chances to learn how to work things out on their own.
    Children must be able to find solutions to their problems too. Think of a traffic light: when children are arguing, just take a breather and listen to them. If the situation becomes tense, guide them, but don’t solve the issue. Only if there’s verbal or physical aggression, you must jump in to break it off.

What do you think about treating siblings differently? What do you think is the golden rule when it comes to raising two or more children?

Preview photo credit JollyOldSaintNicki / Reddit


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First of all does he pay rent?
He is probably living with you for free
I would give him a card next year( empty of course)
Multiply the rent in your area plus the cost of utilities and food
He is probably getting way more than his sister
What an ungrateful son.


If you are willing to do the same for him when he leaves home, gets a house etc and he's still being funny then he is ungrateful. If you'd never do the same then you're in the wrong. You probably should've given them both the same. Then given her the cash outside of Christmas gifting.


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