I Lost Weight and Get a Lot of Compliments, but My Marriage Is Falling Apart

It’s no surprise that women feel differently after giving birth. The heroine of our article suffered from postpartum depression, but then she decided to change her life and managed to pull herself out of her ennui. Unfortunately, her husband wasn’t happy about his “new” wife.

She shared her story online.

I am a 37-year-old woman. I have been married to my husband (40M) for 10 years. We have 2 kids together. I never had any issues in my marriage before. After my son was born I went into deep depression. My life was not in the right track anyways. I was stuck in a dead end low paying job. I was handling my boy alone because my husband had to work overtime to feed us.

When my daughter came, I made a decision to change myself. I have changed my diet and bad food habits. I go to the gym and do yoga every morning. My sleep has improved. My mood has improved drastically with just some changes. I do not get irritated easily or become helpless. I have also updated my resume and looked for a job that suits me. I make a decent amount of money now.

I get compliments from people around telling me I look great. I have lost a ton of weight too. I thought my husband would be happy, but he is not. He dislikes that I get compliments from people or when people compliment me in front of him.

Then I discovered he was cheating on me with a coffee shop waitress. I have looked through some of the chats of her and my husband, and she called me an old hag trying to fit in with the young. She is only 22 years old. I am devastated. I thought my husband would be happy. Our intimate life has been better than ever. This affair has been going on for 7 months.

Despite me working more hours now, I still do all my wifely duties. I cook for him, make him his lunch for the office, I initiate intimacy. When I confronted him about the affair, he told me being with me is always overbearing. He feels invisible because most people give me attention.

And somehow it is my fault. I was obsessed with myself rather than noticing how this is making him feel. He feels small because he has been stuck in the same place 5 years ago. I don’t get it. I never pushed him to follow my lead. I always told him that I loved him no matter what. Why is this happening?

Now here I am getting a divorce from him. On the bright side, I have a lot of free time in my hand. I realized that half of my chores have been reduced. I know kids are messy, but there is a huge relief. I started to notice, my husband was the one who made half of the mess, and I was the one who cleaned it.

Last week I went to the theater with my son and daughter to watch Barbie. We were accompanied by my friend who is also a single mom of 2. I felt good wearing the replica of cowboy costume that Margot Robbie wore (my friend’s idea). We did have a lot of fun.

I am still trying my best to stay afloat. And I am not thinking about dating. I do not have the urge to date at the moment. I did get hit on in a few places but nothing exciting.

We are happy that the heroine found the strength to build a new life, and we hope that her example will be inspiring for other people.