I Refuse to Provide for My Stepmom After She Quit Her Job on Purpose — I Am Not a Credit Card

Freeze your Credit Reports to prevent them opening any "joint accounts" and leave you holding the bag for their spending sprees. Good luck!

I am amazed at most of these comments. They have supported her all her life rightly so. Now she is earning and an adult it is only right that she should contribute to the family bills etc. All the while having something to spend and perhaps save for her next home. I was very proud to bring home my first wage to pay my share of the home and food expenses.

So they want to take all your wages off you so you can't move out, parents aren't owed childhood expenses even if adult child wins lottery

Sadly you should NEVER see or talk to these two ever again!! Hopefully, they are pranking you otherwise, they have the mentality of a mentally disturbed criminal. They’re not good people, run while you can and pretend you never knew them.

You owe them nothing !!! Don't feel guilty and move before they rob you blind. 2 grown adults trying to guilt you in to taking care of them. Tell them when they finally go into a nursing home you may bring them snacks and socks.

If you went to a bank and asked for twenty-three years of free money, they’d laugh you out of the building. Your father provided that 'loan' with 0% interest and a smile. Now the 'balloon payment' is due. You aren't 'bankrolling' them; you’re finally starting to pay back the principal. If you can’t handle a 'few months' of help, you’re essentially admitting you’re a bad investment

Me my reply would be hope the weather keeps fine = NO NO NO BYE

Tell them BOTH absolutely NOT! Do you even live with them?? Sounds like you live on your own if not move out NOW!! Rent a room if necessary but get out! Btw raising a child was THEIR problem not yours!! Maybe your so called father should have kept it in his pants....tell him that next time he brings up having to support you. Where is your bio mom?? Cuz I tell you as a mother I'd have her head on my mantle😈

No is a complete sentence!

Don't help them. Plain and simple, DON'T! No is a complete sentence. If you do help them they will NEVER leave you alone

If this is a strategy to get OP to move out of home it's a nasty manipulative one (probably your step mothers idea too). Run, go live your own life. If your parents can't support you emotionally and financially while you slowly stretch your wings, it's time to concentrate just on your own needs.

Find a place and move out.

Father is a butthole and obviously remarried to his level.

Natasha. When you choose to have a child, you are committing legally and morally, to raise and pay for that child until at least the age of 18. If your student loans are squeezing you, you probably paid your own way minus any student aid for college.

Sit down and make a simple spreadsheet. Start with your take
home pay. Then list your rent, any car payment, insurance and utilities and add your student loans. Then ask them how you are going to support them when you barely support yourself. If you were a tech bro with stock options from your start up, that would be one thing. You have your first job. So Stepmom needs to get over her "done" philosophy and find more work. When you get enough money to pay your bills and at least match your company's match for retirement savings, you can revisit. You do not owe them anything for the first 18 years and you are paying your own debt from college tuition. You do not want to pull this crap on your kids because you did not save. Tell them to figure out where they think you could support them at this stage. It is not that you are not being sympathetic, there is no extra on the table.

They have some nerve and I'm sorry to say this but your step mom is a bitch. She has some nerve expecting you to support the family. I'd pack my stuff and move out and let them pay their own freaking bills. Go live with a friend or if you can afford it get your own place. That's just messed up. As long as you put up with it you can bet it's never gonna end. Pack your stuff and MOVE OUT!!!! QUICKLY!!!!!! Best of luck to you and hope they regret what they did but I doubt it. Move out!!!!

it was your father's choice to have children and support you, children have no choice. you have worked hard to stand on your own 2 feet and should enjoy it. don't let your parents guilt trip you into looking after them till goodness know when.

Sue stepmom for what she's no longer earning now that she's not working by HER choice.

Just get out from there and give no contact to them and don't give your address to anyone related to them.

Look for a place to live. You owe step & your dad nothing. It’s the law you must have a roof over your head, food & clothing till 28 yrs old.

You used the word 'cruel' for your sister's story and now you're acting like this is some grand betrayal? Helping your parents isn't 'cruelty'—it's the circle of life. My grandmother lived in our guest room for fifteen years and we didn't go crying to the internet about it. It’s called being a family, not a roommate with boundaries.

Looking at your father 'waiting for him to shut this down'—who do you think you are? The supervisor? He’s the head of that house, and if he says it’s your turn to chip in, you open your checkbook and you say 'Thank you for the twenty-three years of free rent.'

Twenty-three years. Twenty-three years of organic milk, soccer cleats, and probably a university degree you’re barely using—and you have the nerve to call it a 'debt you never signed up for'? You signed up for it the second you didn't move out at eighteen, dear.

What can you do?!! Tell them no, you're not their retirement plan and you don't want to hear from them again. Then block them on everything. If you have a roommate let them know they're not allowed inside. As a matter of fact, hang a camera and don't answer the door.

You owe them nothing. Not an effen thing. They don't love or respect you and I'm sorry about that. Make your own family, doesn't need to be blood to count.