I Refused to Keep My Late Son’s Fiancée in His House—We’re Not a Charity

Helena, Helena, you sound like a miserable, horrid old witch. Her love died and all you think about is money. You never thought to offer her to rent? You don't want to be tied to her, so my guess is you didn't get along. At least your son had the foresight to kindly repay her for her efforts and stick the knife in your ribs by giving her his share of the family business. With any luck she will make you pay big to buy her out

Anne Cross

Dont in alot of places you required to give a notice of about 30 days? She was living there, they were going to get married.. Like.. Who the f kicks a grieving woman out of their home a month after their fiancee, the person they loved and were going to spend their life with died?!

S Tate

Advice? Yeah...quit being a royal B. You are an inconsiderate, unsympathetic ass. Sounds like she is more mature than you. Your son would be ashamed of you for how you have treated the woman he loved and planned to spend the rest of his life with. I wonder what she'd have had to put up from you if he had lived smh

Rita Wilson

What a Harry woman you are. She loved your son and nursed him and you treat like this? Shame on you.

Peggy Luzer

Think of how you will justify this to our creator? Or your son when you pass over as your son has. Our lives are not about us, it's about how we treat others.

Wow, aren't you the bitch? What do you think your son would think of someone who would put the person he loved out on the street, especially after she spent 2 years nursing someone you were supposed to love? I feel sorry for her having to see you for the rest of her life. Maybe you could buy her shares, and I hope she takes you for an obscene amount of money

Amy

You seem heartless in this letter. Imagine losing your significant other then being evicted. Ask her for rent if she can't pay begin eviction process but maybe work something out with her. She has access to your business so you will be forced to see her.

Cathy F

You should have given her a couple of months and then ask for rent. They weren't married but she nursed him like a wife. She earned her inheritance.

Jason Thompson

Get over yourself she was there for your son for his last years and took care of him I'm glad he left her his shares you sound like a greedy bitch

Jason Thompson

The fiance has no right to the house and it sucks that the son signed paperwork giving her rights to his mom's business. You got it backwards, the fiance is a greedy bitch

The fiancee didn't say she had a right to the house, she just didn't think she would/should be tossed out in the street Immediately, especially while she's just lost her loved one. You sound just as nasty as his mother

D.G. Sifuentes

His mother also lost someone, her son, where is the empathy for her? If the house was owned by a non family member and not getting monthly rent what do you suppose will happen?

Cheryl Cadwell

D.G. Sifuentes

If she wasn't so ignorant and concerned about money, she could have grieved WITH her son's fiance, instead of treating her like the help.

Marlene Jones

I so very much agree. Nobody made her take care of her fiancé. She has a right to her house. Her son had no right to give 20% rights to his mom's business to his girlfriend. I think this woman wormed her way into his mom's business when the son was very ill. This is a nasty situation.

Cheryl Cadwell

Marlene Jones

He had EVERY RIGHT, they were HIS to do with as he pleased, and he wanted to make sure that his WIFE (that is what she was, paperwork or not) was taken care of.

Wrong

GREEDY, NO. BITCH, NO. GRIEVING, ABSOLUTELY. Nowhere does it say that she was TAKING ANYTHING AWAY FROM THAT COW, HELENA. If your spouse died, and you had been their caregiver for years, JUST HOW FAST WOULD YOU BE MOVING OUT? Even if you lived in another family members house, common courtesy demands kindness in this type of situation. You OBVIOUSLY DON'T KNOW WHAT THAT IS. It ALSO WAS HIS RIGHT TO GIVE HIS SHARES TO WHOMEVER HE WANTED TO. The DIL should have forced that evil cow to EVICT her. Then she could have had some time to grieve her lost love. Helena blew it, instead of an ally she created an enemy. Now she will have to deal with the fallout. I hope the fiance SELLS her business shares to one of Helena's RIVALS, and makes a killing on the sale.

Jen

3 weeks ago

It wasn't the mom's business if the son had 30% ownership. He clearly knew his mom was a greedy bitch and would leave the woman who cared for him screwed.

Buy her out. Until then don't I've her anything to do. Block her from the system. When clients/customers ask tell them she's only there on paper, she doesn't actually do anything. And get a lawyer.

You're the majority owner, it's up to you what she does. You might have to give her 20% quartly or yearly until you buy her out.

Kimberly Leger

Horrible person. Read my comments

Kimberly Leger

Her life was just ruined by losing the love of her life and you're saying ruined her professionally as well.

Cheryl Cadwell

Satan is waiting for you too!

Jason Thompson

I wouldn't sell my 20 percent if I was the girl fuck that greedy bitch of a mom

You are absolutely correct. I'd also file eviction paperwork against her if she isn't properly paying the rent

I'll bet you would! That says a lot about you

Thank you for sharing your story, Helena.

What you’re facing isn’t just grief, but also the shock of realizing your son made decisions that permanently tied his fiancée to your life and business. This is a deeply emotional and complicated situation, so here is our advice to you.

Separate Your Grief From the Business Reality.

Kari Short

I am glad she wasn't married to your son because you aren't mother in law material. You sound more like a money hungry brat that anything. She can pay you rent reduced of course because she obviously took care of your son in his dying days. Stop being so greedy. You sound much like a narcissist than a mother. She rightfully owns part of your company. Again, stop being greedy ..

Your anger at her presence is tied to the pain of losing your son, but the business arrangement is a legal fact.

Action: Consider hiring a professional manager or intermediary to handle communication with her about the business. This gives you breathing room so that your grief doesn’t get tangled into every meeting.

Redefine the House as a Fresh Start for Both.

The house has become a painful symbol of conflict — for you, it’s your property; for her, it’s where she lost the man she loved.

Action: Instead of pushing her out abruptly, consider offering her time-limited access (a few months) or helping her transition into her own space. This way, you draw a clear line without appearing as though you’re erasing your son’s memory.

Use the Business Share as an Opening, Not a Burden.

You see her 20% as an unwanted tie, but it could also be the bridge to something new.

Action: If she’s willing, assign her a role that aligns with her strengths (marketing, client relations, or administration). By channeling her into a productive role, you transform the partnership from “forced” to potentially beneficial.

Create a Separate Space to Process Your Grief.

The anger you feel toward her may partly be displaced grief over your son’s sudden death.

Action: Join a grief support group or speak with a counselor specifically about the overlap of loss and family conflict. By processing your emotions elsewhere, you can return to the business table calmer and less likely to see her only as an intruder.

Here’s another story that sparked plenty of discussion. Kristin has been cooking for her husband’s family every Sunday, but she’s finally had enough. He insists on hosting them since they helped buy the house. Here’s what happened next.

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Jenna Pinnell

Sorry for your loss. This feels somewhat vindictive. She's your son's fiance. You don't have to like her.
Maybe, showing her some compassion, as your both grieving, giving her time to say good bye to the life she had, and prepare for another life, without him..

Gloria Moat

Instead of kicking her out, why don't you offer to rent the house to your sons fiancee? That makes more sense to me than fighting each other over the house.

Natacha

I'm sorry for your loss but you sound very heartless. She was his fiancée, still grieving and instead of trying to morally support each other you want to kick her outside to become homeless? You could've offered a few months to decide to either rent the house herself or find a new place. I feel horrible for the fiancée. compassion is a thing...

Darlene Devinney Landis

Depending on how long they lived together she may ne his common law wife.and her son probaly knew the minute he died she would boot his fiance, the person he loved out. So she may have some rights no one thought of and mom may get a surprise she doesnt like

Johanna F. Teague