I Refused to Keep My Late Son’s Fiancée in His House—We’re Not a Charity

You really are a nasty person to throw that girl out her home she is grieving just like you are. Instead of showing compassion you offer cruelty. You really need to get some morals and a heart

Lizzy D

If you really don't like the son's fiance, get lawyers involved and pay her out. Otherwise make sure she is a silent partner so you don't need to see her swanning about the business on a day to day basis. I'm guessing she will want a lump sum.

Lizzy D

Time to create a market rate lease for the house the son's fiance lives in. Have a property manager collect the full rent and do inspections. The 20% of the company's profits may not cancel out the lease amount.

Stephanie R.

Your son passed away and the pain and hurt it caused is im sure, unbearable. The pain is also great for her as she was going to be his wife and the fact that she was his wife in practically every way including caring for him while he was ill, except for on paper. I have a feeling that you have never cared for her, which is sad. She has lost her family too and before the sheets are even cold, she is losing her home. Why such hatred towards her? Has she done something wrong or is it the sheer fact of seeing her reminds you of him? You lost a son but you gained a daughter. You should try to bridge the gap. Legally and coldly, there is a lot you can do but think carefully before you do it.

Stephanie R.

They weren't married, she has no right to the house and it sucks that the son valued his mom's business so little that he gave 20% to his girlfriend. If i gave 20% of anything my family owned to a guy I'd been with for a couple years? I'd expect them to be angry as well. My fiance of 14 years recently passed in an accident after long illness and we have lived together for those 14 years- I don't even feel entitled to his car or shoes. We weren't married yet due to inability to locate his birth certificate in the small town in Ukraine he was born in with all the unrest there. Giving away his mom's business or letting her live in her house have nothing to do with love- she deserves her assets from someone that her son wasn't with long enough to get to know

June Miller

Grow up. Marriage is just a piece of paper. It's the relationship which counts. And you don't know how long they'd been together, just that he was sick for the last 2 years. The shares in the business were the son's, and he was entitled to do what he liked with them. He obviously thought she deserved them.

Cheryl Cadwell

Sorry for what you went through but, HAVE YOU LOST YOUR MIND? It's the MOTHER that doesn't know her son OR DIL, because she WAS the WIFE, on paper or not. Her son, most likely gave her his part of the business because HE KNEW what an ignorant and selfish woman his own mother was, and wanted to assure and ensure that she was not left out in the cold. Which the mother did so fast that her son's body was still warm.

Stephanie R.

month ago

That's been her home and family for at least 2 years and boom, tragedystrikes now get the f out is an arse thing to do. As for your 14, yes you are basically his wife. Close to common law. You are entitled for losing your family of at least 14 years to some memories.

Cheryl Cadwell

month ago

When you take care of your dying partner, THEN YOU CAN SPEAK, OTHER THAN THAT STFU.

Mocha Hazel

The shares he owned was 20% which he chose to give to his fiancee. He I am guessing felt grateful to her for taking care of him, and also wanted to make sure she was taken care of when he was gone. Not sure why you assume they were only together for 2 years, it only stated she cared for him for 2 years, who knows how long they were together. A lot of assumption going on. In the states, you can not in MANY states remove someone's belonging, they have to be held in storage. the fiancee could sue. Also, she could always buy out the 20%, and who knows what type of business it was. If the son was ill enough for 2 years for the fiancee to take care of him, I am guessing he was not going into the office every day. Seems there may be more to this story. It's hard to make a judgement one way or another without all the facts. I am impartial, but also looking at a legal stand point. Another scenario could be the fiancee isolated the son, and that is why the mom is so upset in addition to her grief.

Jen

3 weeks ago

Marriage is nothing more than getting the government involved in your relationship. Plus nowhere does it say they barely knew each other. They were engaged for 2 years before he passed, who know how long they were engaged or together before he got sick. Plus being a spouse doesnt make you a good person or partner (50% end in divorce)

Your anger at her presence is tied to the pain of losing your son, but the business arrangement is a legal fact.

Action: Consider hiring a professional manager or intermediary to handle communication with her about the business. This gives you breathing room so that your grief doesn’t get tangled into every meeting.

Redefine the House as a Fresh Start for Both.

The house has become a painful symbol of conflict — for you, it’s your property; for her, it’s where she lost the man she loved.

Action: Instead of pushing her out abruptly, consider offering her time-limited access (a few months) or helping her transition into her own space. This way, you draw a clear line without appearing as though you’re erasing your son’s memory.

Use the Business Share as an Opening, Not a Burden.

You see her 20% as an unwanted tie, but it could also be the bridge to something new.

Action: If she’s willing, assign her a role that aligns with her strengths (marketing, client relations, or administration). By channeling her into a productive role, you transform the partnership from “forced” to potentially beneficial.

Create a Separate Space to Process Your Grief.

The anger you feel toward her may partly be displaced grief over your son’s sudden death.

Action: Join a grief support group or speak with a counselor specifically about the overlap of loss and family conflict. By processing your emotions elsewhere, you can return to the business table calmer and less likely to see her only as an intruder.

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Jenna Pinnell

Sorry for your loss. This feels somewhat vindictive. She's your son's fiance. You don't have to like her.
Maybe, showing her some compassion, as your both grieving, giving her time to say good bye to the life she had, and prepare for another life, without him..

Gloria Moat

Instead of kicking her out, why don't you offer to rent the house to your sons fiancee? That makes more sense to me than fighting each other over the house.

Natacha

I'm sorry for your loss but you sound very heartless. She was his fiancée, still grieving and instead of trying to morally support each other you want to kick her outside to become homeless? You could've offered a few months to decide to either rent the house herself or find a new place. I feel horrible for the fiancée. compassion is a thing...

Darlene Devinney Landis

Depending on how long they lived together she may ne his common law wife.and her son probaly knew the minute he died she would boot his fiance, the person he loved out. So she may have some rights no one thought of and mom may get a surprise she doesnt like

Johanna F. Teague