I Refused to Pay for My Stepson’s School, I’m Not a Walking ATM

I dont know if this is a true story or not but I'm responding as it's quite typical of how people can behave.
This mothers son is 12, her stepson is 14..so he was 2years old when she married his father right! Didn't she become this fellas mumma for 12 years of his life-sounds like they all are under one roof. Has she not liked this boy all these years to treat him less than her biological son??
I think she has thought very selfishly regarding the boys...suddenly only 'my son' is precious and deserves better.
She also disrespects & dishonored her husband who fairly suggested they have equal opportunity.
And whatever he meant by: 'you'll be sorry'..wasn't a bad outcome. He just made a stand as a father & leader of the home & 'took the bull by the horns'.
Forgiveness sake .the mother needs?yo stop calling the 12 yr old ..'my son' for a start..its-'our son' and 'his son' should also be: 'our son'..otherwise she should not have married his father.
How dare we be so mean & favouring one?so blatantly over tge itger..and what man shoukd be expected to stand by and let it happen. Good on you dad!
These boys are half b!rothers and when they are older this woman will feel ashamed of her mean decision & nature toward the older boy.
Thats what I think!
The child was safe..he was taken by his father .not kidnapped. Its his son too!

I've read a lot of these am I the a****** post and I find it interesting that when the woman is the one needing help with her stepchildren everyone expects the man to step up and take care of the children, but the man is the one in this situation needing help with his child from a previous relationship and everyone wants to act like this isn't her job or responsibility. If she didn't want the responsibility of this she should not have gotten into a relationship with someone who had kids from a prior relationship. She definitely should not have married him or have a child with him. When you're in a relationship and you have Financial issues when one of you loses a job it's supposed to be a team effort to find a solution. And if she has to step up temporarily to take care of her stepson's tuition then she really should be a good person and do the right thing.

If you share a 12yr old son and he has a 14yr old son from a prior relationship. That means that you have been around your stepson since he was 2yrs old. For you to say he is not your responsibility shows how selfish and coldhearted you are and this just means that you never cared about your stepson and you show favoritism. Both you and your husband are in the wrong and I feel bad that your kids have to suffer because you guys act like petty children yourselves

I found it very disheartening that there are so many people on this thread that are agreeing with her. When you met this man he already had a child, when you accepted the man you accept the responsibilities of this child. You are favoring your child, without realizing that both children are his and he loves them equally. I'm not saying that you should be an ATM but you should come together especially with the third parent and try to come up with a solution not to punish the child for an adult situation. This is a situation that you willingly about yourself into, and as an adult you should adult and try to do the best collectively by all children in this situation that you brought yourself into. Would you be okay if you lost your job, and your husband said well our son that we have collectively can no longer go to private school, because I'm already paying for one child. Or would you expect him to come up with some solution where both children are taken care of? That should be the solution regardless of what happens.

If he thinks this is acceptable, you have a serious Husband problem. Or maybe you need to ask yourself why he isn't with your stepchild's mother. Perhaps he needs to be your ex-husband.

"I'm not an ATM"...what a monster she is...we are talking about a childs welfare, not money for a night out. She clearly hates his child and he will never get over this. He is gonna leave her asap. She didn't even offer to do it if he laid her back when he found a new job. That poor child having to live with a step-mother this vindictive. The father atleast toom the right steps to stop the kids from loathing one another...she probably had him paying for everything while he was employed...typical women, warm weather fans the lot of them lol.

This problem exsisted long ago. The fact that you and your husband did not discuss these types of issues ahead of time was one. The fact that you did not realize when you marry someone with children, whether you like it or not, you are taking on obligations that exstend to their care either or both financial and emotional. That sentiment one of the commenters mentioned "when in doubt throw it out", is an irrisponsible way to approach life and commitments you have made. Return your son to his school, discuss and reach an agreement with your husband that his son will continue for an agreed amount of time at the school - after which time husband will pickup school cost and reimburse you for monies spent on his son's tuition. Remember your actions and attitudes are showing not only your husband and his son what type of person you are, but also your son. Caring for and developing love for anothers child is hard work but it carries with it great rewards and they have nothing to do with thank you.

He should Be a real man and take responsibility for what's his. If he can't do that how can anyone expect you to stay. He needs to Man up instead of making excuses.

When in doubt throw it out!!!

YANOIT

Divorce.

Time for hubby to go! Why isn't stepson's mother paying for his tuition? Can't dear old Dad get some sort of part time work if he is struggling to find a job in his field? What he did by pulling your son out of school showed cruelty to your son and lack of respect to you. .Time to call a lawyer!

I think it's time to reevaluate your marriage.hes cracking up!

You’re both hurt and trying to protect your children — but you’re fighting each other instead of the problem. This isn’t just about money — it’s about trust, respect, and what it means to be a family. Both of you made choices that ended up hurting the kids, even if unintentionally. Now it’s time to talk, not as opponents, but as partners — and focus on repairing the damage together.

You got married to the man his son should be treated like your own, if you don't like it devorse him.

Stand firm mum , do not give in