My MIL Criticized Me Behind My Back — She’s Not Welcome in Our Home Anymore

year ago

My MIL Criticized Me Behind My Back — She’s Not Welcome in Our Home Anymore

We often believe our relationship with our in-laws is perfectly fine until one small moment changes everything. This is what happened to our reader Angie. She accidentally overheard her mother-in-law saying something unimaginable behind her back. That moment was a turning point for Angie, who then decided to ban her mother-in-law from her house and reached out to us for advice.

This is Angie's story.

Jo Haas

year ago

I was once quite large and if your husband didn't mind, not their place to say anything.

Amy Burrows

year ago

Both of these previous comments are disgusting first off that dress looks beautiful on her. Second how is wearing a skirt and tanktop in your own home disrespectful? I'm so sick of hearing woman/girls need to cover up more because it is distracting to men/boys. She has every right to not want them back in her home. This mil couldn't even talk to the woman herself had to speak with her husband like it's up to him to decide what his wife wears. I hope this husband backed her up and told his mother to shut up.

Carol Walker

year ago

Your house, your rules. Period

Jaz

year ago

I think your being dramatic. She said it about you not to you.
Yes it is your "fault" you have a curvy body bruh it's YOUR BODY, You own it, you care (or uncare) for it.... also it's not a fault. I just wanted to make that clear.

The problem is, you are an ADULT, why didn't YOU ASK Mother inlaw there and than to clarify herself and use that time to educate the whole family by having a discussion.
But no! You want to ban her over an opinion she had because she felt her sons wife was too exposed in front of her other son......

Why couldn't you talk about it? How old are you? I hope you don't have children yet because you are still acting like 1.

I have had issues with both my parent inlaws and gets what we did? WE TALKED! So that no one was being cut off.

I would divorce a petty girl like you. Please grow up and understand EVERYONE HAS A RIGHT TO AN OPINION.... Only the little girls would react so dramatically.

year ago

This comment came alive and ran away.

Thanks for getting in touch, Angie! We’ve got some advice that we think might help you handle this sensitive situation.

Define your boundaries.

Have a conversation with your husband about the need to set clear boundaries with his mother regarding her comments about your appearance or behavior. Make it clear that such remarks are unacceptable and will not be tolerated in your home.

Encourage your husband to actively support you in maintaining these boundaries and to communicate them to his mother if necessary.

Initiate a direct conversation.

Set up a private meeting with your mother-in-law to directly address her comments. Approach the conversation with calmness and respect, explaining how her remarks have impacted you. Make it clear that, while you respect her opinion, you have the right to dress as you prefer in your own home. Encourage open communication and make an effort to understand her perspective as well.

Lead by example.

Let your confidence shine in how you act and carry yourself. Keep dressing in a way that makes you feel good and comfortable at home, regardless of any judgmental comments.

By consistently showing your confidence, you may change how others see things and make it clear that you won’t be influenced or shamed for your choices.

Seek professional support.

If the situation continues or becomes more difficult to manage, it might be wise to seek help from a therapist or counselor.

A professional can guide you through complex family dynamics, help you establish healthy boundaries, and provide coping strategies for handling tough conversations and interactions.

Family tension is something many people deal with. One Bright Side reader shared her story about making the difficult decision to stop letting her parents babysit her toddler after they left the child alone in a swimming pool. The situation became even more complicated when she listened to her parents' justification for their actions.