When her son suddenly demanded her entire house, caring little where she’d live, this elderly woman faced a shocking betrayal. But when she stood her ground and refused, the situation spiraled and completely changed the family dynamic.
Have a favorite niece or nephew? I would leave your house to them instead of your son. Furthermore, you need to make sure your son does NOT have power of attorney and is NOT the executor of your estate. You could also set up a trust and put all of your assets in that and name a secondary trustee that isn't your son. That way he will have no legal recourse when you should pass. Children should help their aging parents, not scheme to steal everything they have.
“Hi Bright Side,
So, my son and his wife recently announced they’re expecting twins. I was over the moon for them, truly happy. Then he mentioned they’d need more space, so I said, ‘You can live with me. There’s plenty of room.’ But he replied, ‘We were thinking maybe the whole house would be better for us.’ I said no. That’s when he snapped and told me, ‘You should sacrifice for your kid like a mother would!’
A week later, I woke up to a knock at the door. There was a woman I’d never seen before, holding a badge, a social worker from a nursing home. She said she came to talk about how wonderful their facility was and how I’d be ‘living in heaven’ there. I was completely confused until I realized what must have happened: my son had contacted her and told her I wanted to move but needed encouragement.
I explained everything, offered her tea and cookies, and we ended up parting on very good terms. She was honestly lovely, just misled.
Since then, I haven’t spoken to my son. It’s been two weeks of silence. He keeps calling and sending messages, but I still don’t know how to respond or what to do next. How do you even rebuild trust after something like this?”
Your son is ungrateful and I don't think he is even human. You made plenty of sacrifices for him growing up and he does this to you. Cut all ties with him
sell the house, move to a smaller condo. put the money in an annuity or blue chip stocks.
Put the house in a trust so he can never get it. It will be very hard to build trust again. He really has to make it up to you.
Son you are old enough to be married with children on the way, you are not a ' kid ' that needs to be sacrificed for so steeply. Don't think I would try to rebuild trust with him, apparently by his own actions you aren't the least bit important to him except as some one to be tossed aside when it suits him, so NC him until he grows up, unfortunately for you and your grandchildren, he may never do so. Instead he thinks he should be entitled to what you worked hard for, after probably upsizing once or twice to your forever home just like he should be doing. You made him a fine and generous offer, he's just way too entitled to take it in the loving manner it was given
I'd tell the sorry excuse of a son where he can stick his plans and stay right where you are. It's YOUR house and nobody has the right to kick you out just because they want it. Who does he think he is anyway? It's your home you deserve to live in it and enjoy your golden years in peace not being bullied around by a selfish, self-centered jerk just because he wants it. Stand your ground and do NOT let him bully you into giving it up just because it's something he wants. Just say NO. You give him an inch and he's gonna take a mile. Stand your grounds and don't let him bully you into doing something you dont want to do. He's a big boy let him figure it out. He's a grown man and he needs to put his big boy pants on and stop acting like a spoiled brat. DO NOT let him bully you into doing something you aren't comfortable doing. He should be ashamed of himself. Sorry to say this but he is a jerk.
He's a threat. Simple as that. Protect yourself in every sense of the word.
Start by not letting them move in. It would take a lot of time and money to get them out. Don't let them start getting mail there either, which will establish residency. See a lawyer to see what you can do to protect yourself. And think very hard about if you want to leave it to him. Maybe consider a trust, selling the house when you're gone and leaving the proceeds to the grandkids,
If you have a good relationship and they get it when they're older or for ie college or a home. Or to a charity. Remember it's your home, not his. He has no say.
Regardless of the fact that you own the house. Get a lawyer and follow his or her advice. Fill , sign , notorize any and all legal forms you are told to do. It would be a great idea aswel to put your will and final testament done. Get medical records and confirmations of your competency. Do not feel sorry for him. Especially don't feel sorry for yourself. You did your best , some people are just vile human beings. You can have generations of happy loving family and all of a sudden the unexpected. Being a parent comes with challenges regardless,without these anomalies. You aren't in the position to give him the benifit of the doubt. Don't over think your fears. These situations do happen and are very real. You aren't crazy nor incompetent. Please don't wait for more random strangers coming to your door. Nip this in the bud, now. You will feel empowered and at peace from harassment.
We all know ts the wife's idea. If she was a decent women she would stop her husband from such a dirty trick. Its a shame too, she is going to be a mother soon and shoukd know better.
Oh, so her son is incapable of thinking for himself? That's a huge assumption that you are making. You raise your kids the best you can, but sometimes one of them becomes a bad person. I knew a family once who had 3 sons. One became a doctor, another a Rabbi, and one is in prison on Death Row. We all make our own choices, and all you know about this one is what the mother has told us.
Matteo WAS making an assumption, but a possibly valid one. BOTH of you may be right.
I would contact a lawyer and secure your property. Also I would get an evaluation from a doctor about your health and competency. Put a copy with your legal documents. Get a lockbox at a bank to keep them in. Review your Will and have any changes if any notarized.
I'm free for the next few years in case you need somebody to come help you keep them away from you.
Now THAT IS FUNNY, it's also a shame that it might be necessary.
I agree that you need to update your will and leave him his wife and all their kids $1 each!
Call a lawyer and find out how to protect yourself.
Once you get your new will you need to mail him a copy as a baby shower gift and cut them off. Sorry but you are in DANGER being around him and he will stop at nothing to have you removed from what he wants. No more contact. Protect yourself and to hell with him and his family. You are officially free of his abuse! May God have mercy on his evil soul!
She should also get the locks changed in case he has a key, and maybe get some security cameras and a Ring doorbell. If he has a key, he could try to move him and his wife in while his mother is out shopping or something. They could easily get new driver's licenses listing her house as their permanent address and have it mailed to a PO Box so she doesn't find out until it's too late.
It's called elderly abuse. This was never his house to begin with.
No shit and I'd report his ass and go 100% no contact!!!
Time to protect yourself. He's going to try anything and everything now to get you out of the house. You need to file a restraining order. Let the local police know what is going on so they can file any report he makes. Get the request he made to the nursing faculty. Talk to a lawyer about what else you need to do to protect you and your house from him. There's really no coming back from this. He feels entitled to your house. He's proven to you what kind of person he is. Now it's time to prevent anything happening to you.
Wow wawawow! Putting it straight out there dear but your son is actually a danger to you. You need a lawyer and a good strong core group of people who know you very well to advocate for you. They need to keep watch over your living situation on a regular basis. Not that I think your son will do you harm{not absolutely out of the question however}but he's going to try and get his greedy hands on your home and finances for sure
You want to keep track of this sort of thing so that when he tries it again you have documentation that he is basically engaging in elder abuse. I'm sorry that your son is such a conniving thieving creature and so without love for you.
Sorry I don't want to scared u but u need to be careful of your son , since he didn't get the house he may try other way that may result very badly .
Get a Lawyer and make sure your house goes into a trust for whatever charity you like. Never let him get his hands on it. After this i would never speak to him again. It's one thing to let them live there but this greedy little Bitch wants to steal the whole house. Screw that noise. Cut him off NOW!!!
Tell your son you already created will all your possession going to charity. See his true nature and you may judge him further. Like you REALLY sent to charity and none at him ?
well that was so wrong for your son to do that but you're going to inherit the house to him anyway. might as well just give him now if he's really need it
Wow you're special...
If he needs a house let him buy one that’s his mother’s house not his
The mother should SELL her house and then MOVE INTO A NICE SENIOR community, NOT A SENIOR RESIDENCE, (they are different) and A SMALLER HOUSE. At least she would be around people who are not trying to take anything from her. A bonus is that children are not allowed to be permanent residents in these communities.
His mother should do whatever the hell she wants! That's her home that she paid for, and if she's happy there and capable of living alone and looking after the house herself, then why should she move? Who are you to tell her how to live?
I was only suggesting that she had that option. If you read my previous statement you would see that. But also WHO TF ARE YOU to tell me what my opinion is?
The son is an adult, the mother still alive and the inheritance is a volunteer act not an obligation, the should have looked for a solution on his own, not trying to kick his mother out of her own home. This says a lot about him and very good things
Are you a moron?? Who says she has to leave it to him? So let me guess your a doormat and everyone wipes their feet on you and you just take it. I feel sorry for you!
Looks like we found the son.
You're some kind of.
..I don't even know what to call you. Give it to him now? Give him a good kick in the pants and introduce him to your attorney with a warning of he ever tries anything like that again you will prosecute him for attempted theft of your property.
Why don't you give him your house and go live in a home if you really think he deserves it,and how do you know it's his inheritance?I would never give to him now
Love your answer.
No. Her house her rules and who she leaves it is up to her not him. She may have other children
This has to be the most sensible reply on here. Has any one asked if this lady, have she got more children. NO. She may have and should speak to them before going to a lawyer. But then if its only him the son. Get a lawyer. The son is a bit of trash to even to suggest what he want her to do. She made a offer and it was thrown in her face. Don't blame his wife as she said nothing about her forcing him to do it. His a big ass grown man with a horrible mind. So his in the wrong.
Well I hope she doesn't let him have it in her death either. And I hope that nobody ever looks to you for advice. That's horrible what you just said what you are suggesting is the most horrific way a family could ever treat a matriarch!
Speak the truth Sister. Amen.
Your awful. Did you do this to your mother
His mother didn't tell him to go out and get a wife or make those babies. It's not her responsibility to take care of them. She raised him, took care of him, and now it's time for him to be the man, he thinks he is, and take care of HIS family. That's HIS wife, HIS babies. So. He needs to get off his lazy butt, and get a house for his wife and his babies. PERIOD.
What makes you think (oh, wait, you don't, do you?) that HE WOULD INHERIT THE HOUSE? Just because he is her son? BULLSHIT. If he really needs a bigger house, he can get a second job. He IS NOT ENTITLED TO ANYTHING OF HER'S. His behavior proves that he SHOULD NEVER get anything from her.
Who says she ever intended for him to have it after she dies? That's her home and she built the equity in it. What had he done to deserve it? Maybe she plans for the house to become a residence for Nuns, or a home for unwed teenage mothers. Regardless, it's her property and he is not automatically entitled to it. Who are you to tell other people what to do with their property? Or maybe you don't believe in private property. Maybe you're just some Communist who believes in the redistribution of private property. Maybe you're just an entitled Gen Z er who's never had to work for anything in her life and just had it handed to you.
By the way, you don't inherit something *to* someone. You will property to a person who then inherits(receives it.)
You need to gi back to school, because clearly your education is incomplete. You must have failed English Vocabulary.
WE all know what Kyra was saying. EVEN if it was poorly written and grammatically incorrect. None of us AGREE with her, either, but we didn't INSULT HER, because of it.
You don't regain trust. You can never let your guard down again. You need to go to adult protective services and file an abuse report. It's elder abuse. It's a felony.. In Texas, it's a third degree felony. You could be in grave danger. Have your lawyer immediately began the legal eviction process. You may need to ask a friend to come stay in your house with you until your family has moved out.
You are right. Just like Virginity, once lost/taken you NEVER GET TRUST BACK.
That no good, rotten, sorry excuse for a human being. Never trust, never surrender. His has shown his colors and you are not his family and you can find out it is probably his wife behind it all if not just with him. Let him know it was really nice to have a social worker contact ypu and made you think that you could do some downsizing so you are going to sell the house and move somewhere more manageable.
Rebuild TRUST? You will NEVER BE ABLE TO TRUST HIM! You need to make sure that your lawyer (get one) is aware of what he is trying to do, and get something put in place so that he CAN'T GET CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE AND LIVING CONDITION. Raising your son until he is 18, or out of college, sure, but wanting you to SACRIFICE what you built up during your lifetime is just a SELFISH ASK. He didn't ask to be born, but that does not give him the right to expect you to CONTINUE SUPPORTING HIM, and that is exactly what he is asking of you.He WILL KEEP TRYING. Make a living will that states your wishes and IN PLAIN ENGLISH. Your son will TRY TO GASLIGHT YOU, (if he hasn't already) & he will start telling people that you are losing touch with reality. He will get others to think that YOU NEED HELP. IF you want to leave him your house when you pass, that is up to you. If you don't want to do that, you must state, again in plain English, in your WILL, that he (use his name specifically) has no claim to your assets and that you are leaving them to whoever you decide. If you say FAMILY or RELATIVES he can and will contest it. You don't owe him anything and his sense of entitlement is appalling. You should SPEND IT ALL. OR, get a REVERSE MORTGAGE that HE CAN PAY OFF when you pass. I never understood "children" that think because they are your children they are OWED what you spent your life working for. I hope that social worker has it documented what your son tried to do, so that they are aware of his deception. Was he always this senseless, or just since he got married?
You were too happy , you allow your wants to take over because you wanted grandkids , you step back and take control of your life ,protect yourself and don't sign any papers let your lawyer check everything out for you , if things get to tough you can always sale your house and disappear from your son
OP should leave him $1 in the will so he can't contest it
Need to be careful as there are too many stories where the kid and DIL just show up with all their stuff and force their way in!
Why is it always the dil blamed. How about the Sil.🙄🙄🙄😂😂😂
Or, she can sell the house and move to a lovely retirement home. There are some beautiful ones out there. Spend every dime you have.
Now there ya go.....that's a perfect idea. Then he has no house to get and you are protected.
40 years ago I saw a BUMPER STICKER on a huge motorhome that read "WE ARE SPENDING OUR GRANDKIDS INHERITANCE". I ALWAYS thought that was BRILLIANT.
2 bedrooms only need for now 1 for babies 1 for adults. Why needs house? Maybe one day not now though. Yes lawyer needed to make sure water tight. I would go none contact until he comes crawling. Yes your son and u love him. But someone keep away for now.
Suggest you change your will, you raised an entitled brat. Change your locks & remove him from emergency contact & power if attorney. Your son needs to man up & provide for his family. Good luck.
Dear Darla,
Your son’s actions weren’t just impulsive; they were manipulative, and that’s something you can’t gloss over with a “family makes mistakes” mindset. When someone tries to remove you from your own home under false pretenses, that’s a betrayal of trust, not a misunderstanding. But before you cut ties completely, make space for one calm conversation, not for his comfort, but for your clarity.
Listen without reacting; people often reveal their true motives when they feel they’re being heard. After that, decide your boundaries in writing, literally, make a plan for what contact you’re comfortable with. Protect your property legally, too, so no one can “rearrange” your life again.
And remember: forgiveness doesn’t always mean reconciliation; sometimes it just means freeing yourself from their chaos.
— Yours, Bright Side team
When love gives you a second chance, it also hands you someone else’s past. These stories cut deep, about stepparents who tried, kids who resisted, and families that never quite fit the way everyone hoped they would.
& u hear horrible stories about what goes on in homes. Even the expensive ones
Tough unforseen cloudy day for your family. Please take a moment to breathe and understand. Set a meeting with your family, your son and DIL. Take the time b/c it could be the last. Explain, offer and give notice. Check with your attorney and your rights. Be fair b/c your grandchildren are included. But be ready to defend your rights. Good Luck and congratulations on the twins.
Don't let them move in! Does he work for a living? They can go rent a place, don't give him anything!
See a lawyer ASAP. If I were you, I'd also change the locks on my door. Also, and this might be taking it to the extreme (but oh well), I would alert your police department that you are of sound mind and body incase he tries to call and say your a danger to yourself.
He's not done yet. He's desperate. He's shown his true colors.
P-R-O-T-E-C-T YOURSELF.
