An individual should realize that he or she is the only one responsible for his or her own life and desires. It’s necessary to take one’s life into one’s own hands and act without asking for someone else’s permission.

How to escape the triangle if you’re a victim

Stop complaining about your life. Completely. Spend this time instead on searching for ways to improve the things that you are unhappy with.
Accept once and for all: nobody owes you anything. Even if they promised, even if they wanted and offered something to you themselves. Circumstances are constantly changing, as are human desires. Stop waiting for salvation.
Everything you do is your own choice and responsibility. You are free to make another choice if something is not good for you.
Don’t find excuses and don’t reproach yourself if you feel that you don’t fulfill someone’s expectations.

How to escape the triangle if you’re a persecutor

Stop blaming other people and circumstances.
Become assertive instead of aggressive.
You need to become more empathetic towards others and ditch your authoritative patterns.

How to escape the triangle if you’re a rescuer

If nobody asks you for help or for some advice, stay quiet.
Stop thinking that you need to save the day and that without your help the world will collapse.
Don’t give hasty promises. Just say no.
Stop waiting for gratitude and praise. You help just because you want to help, not because you want some reward, don’t you?
Before you start “doing good” to someone, ask yourself honestly if your involvement is really necessary. This may save you from trouble.
Stop asserting yourself using those who love complaining about their lives just a little bit more.

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