10 Signs Your Happiness Is Too Dependent on Your Partner Even If You Don’t Realize It
The majority of couples depend on each other this way or that. But when you need your partner to fill in your emotional abyss, you’re probably not doing much to meet your emotional needs on your own, psychologists claim. Being dependent on your partner could take a toll not only on your love life but also on your overall well-being, experts claim.
Here at Bright Side, we are in a constant search for expert opinions on how to make relationships bloom in harmony. We’d love for you to find out more about the subtle signs that mean your emotional addiction to your partner is so strong that it actually doesn’t let you enjoy your romance to the fullest.
You mimic your partner’s mood no matter how you actually feel.
You constantly imitate the mood of your beloved not because you feel empathetic. You do it because you are so afraid of what will happen if you are not on the same page with your partner. You worry too much about keeping peace in the relationship, so you end up faking your real feelings.
You often need your partner’s confirmation of what you really are.
You are often hesitant about who you really are or whether you’ve chosen the right way. You often need your partner to confirm that you are a good and decent person. You may seek too much support from your significant other and become uplifted and motivated only after they reassured you that everything will be perfect and you will meet all your goals.
You may feel jealous when your partner sometimes finds happiness outside of the relationship.
You may feel that your relationship is the only thing in the world that can make you happy. You feel threatened when you know that your partner enjoys their life somewhere besides your relationship. You may feel jealous about their hobbies or when they spend time with friends or parents. Your discomfort appears when you realize that, unlike you, they have some activities that they find enjoyable, aside from their feelings for you.
You rely on your partner to make your decisions for you.
You never want to make any decisions on your own because you are too afraid of the responsibility that comes with any decision. You often defer to your partner and do what they tell you to do because you don’t want to hurt them with your independence. Even if your feelings are just the opposite, you would rather follow your partner’s initiative and accept their ideas as if they’re the only right way to go.
Your personality or appearance have changed based on what your partner likes.
You used to be a “people person” and enjoy party time and now you’re a shy little bird who doesn’t even socialize anymore. Maybe your partner finds short hair attractive, so you cut yours to fit their beauty standards, even if you weren’t asked to.
Hair isn’t a huge deal, but this behavior may become toxic. For example, if you try to lose weight solely because your partner says you must. If they don’t like you the way you are, your happiness is in danger.
You give up your needs in favor of your partner’s.
In a healthy relationship, there is a constant process of giving and receiving in all ways possible. This makes the 2 of you feel like a team. But, if you switch into self-sacrifice mode, you’re likely to be giving more than you actually receive. If you often forget about your own wants and needs and only meet your partner’s expectations in order to please them, one day you may just explode with frustration.
All you do is focus on your relationship.
You stop maintaining any other social contacts. You sacrifice your friends and family, even if your partner didn’t actually insist on it. You just don’t do anything else because your mind is so busy with making your relationship perfect.
You’re obsessed with the thought that you need to be a robust couple, even when you both don’t have obvious problems, which might actually provoke relationship issues. This will only make you unfulfilled and disappointed.
You ignore red flags and stay with your partner anyway.
They may become indifferent or you may be constantly arguing, but you still stay in the relationship. Even if you know in your heart of hearts that maybe it’s better to break up. You may hold on to your relationship so tight because you’ve become absolutely dependent on your beloved and you’d simply feel lost without them.
If you feel like you would fail at everything without them, this emotional dependency may be toxic. If you’re not sure, look for the signs.
You bottle up all your emotions even when you argue.
You don’t want to show your beloved that you are upset and you keep all your feelings inside, just keep the image of a positive person. You don’t want to be the reason for trouble — you might even believe that your negative vibes could make them open the door and leave. While having an argument, you’d rather agree with their opinion than show you’re not satisfied and you will never let yourself blame them for anything.
You can’t control your emotions when your partner is away.
You may feel uplifted and joyful only when your partner is around. When they’re not with you at the moment, you experience mood swings, anger, and anxiety and cannot keep your emotions under control. You constantly think about what they’re busy with at the moment and if they still love you, and it undermines your own harmony and happiness.
Do you enjoy being emotionally dependent on your significant other or do you try to fight this emotional state? What is one thing in a relationship that can spoil your happiness?
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