Why Women Find Older Men So Attractive

It seems that there are quite a few women who want to spend their lives with much older men. There is even a special term created for this type of relationship, the May—December romance. It sounds pretty romantic, but some people still look down on couples whose age differs significantly. This happens because they don’t realize that there are amazing reasons why women are attracted to silver foxes.

Now Bright Side knows at least 10 valuable reasons why this happens. And we are going to tell you about them right now.

10. They are more mature.

It’s common knowledge that women tend to mature earlier than men. That’s why younger guys who are usually at the age where they still want to try different things and explore the world before entering a serious relationship, are just not the right partners for them.

Older men may seem more reliable and attractive to women who are ready for deeper commitments and family. Because these men are more likely to have passed their wild phase and want to settle down.

9. They know stuff.

We’ve all heard that with age comes great wisdom. But there is also an ending to this saying: “But sometimes age comes alone.” It seems that Oscar Wilde was wrong, as studies prove that older men are more intelligent than younger men. And the possible reason is their broader life experience.

Women confirm this finding. They are sure that older men have gone through plenty of life experience that has effectively taught them various lessons. You can see this through their conversations.

8. They know what they want.

Another valuable trait some women highlight is that older men have less mess in their lives — and this means stability. They know exactly what they want, how to get it, and how meaningful it is. That’s why they usually don’t waste anyone’s time playing games. Plus, they likely have no barriers when it comes to approaching anyone whose help or advice they need.

7. They are more financially stable.

Most of women really want to be financially secure. Because when you start a family, you need to make sure that your man has enough money and assets to provide the support you and your kids need. And this is where older men are usually ahead of the game.

An average Joe in his late 20s tends to have fewer assets and less savings compared to older men. Younger guys still have to develop themselves and their careers. They’re looking for financial opportunities, and family is not something they care about in the first place.

6. They are partners.

Mature love is about patience, care, trust, and sometimes independence rather than anything else. But youth is known by its “all-or-nothing” mindset, storms of feelings, and standing ground. If there is at least one person who is wisely ready to take a back seat or at least to initiate the discussion of issues, there is hope for the relationship to last.

That’s why women appreciate when their men are able to be partners and not someone who wants to make the world revolve around him. Women do not need to be told what to do or even “allowed” to do something. Being equal is the thing that actually matters.

5. They have no problem with helping women around the house.

Women do need help with household chores, and it seems that older men have fewer biases when it comes to this point. We can see this in a lot of comments from women on Reddit, as they say their older significant others never claimed that household chores were only a woman’s job. For example, some men do the dishes after meals or even wash their own clothes.

4. They know how to treat women.

It seems that women appreciate all the relationship experience older men might have had. And it is no wonder since they really have had enough time to develop and practice their skills for treating women right.

The knowledge of what makes love fail or go on gives them a bit of advantage. They understand what women usually need and what will make them happy. They know how to avoid (or at least try to avoid) the same problems they have already been through. And this makes the relationship that much easier.

3. They’re charismatic.

Older men have a unique attractiveness that triggers something in women. First of all, it’s in their appearance — noble wrinkles around their eyes, salt and pepper hair, light stubble in some of them. They also have their own way of presenting themselves, and women like the way they act, laugh, and behave. They stand out thanks to their unique sense of style because they don’t usually follow fashion trends as closely as college-aged boys.

2. They don’t seek out drama.

Let’s face it, women can be pretty emotional creatures. Some can easily exaggerate things and act without thinking. That’s why it is important for them to have men who are able to make them stop and take a breath. And it appears that older men tend to have this skill.

We believe that they just don’t look for any drama or conflict anymore. They prefer not to argue over ordinary problems. And even if there is an issue, they can sit down and talk it out like adults and come up with a solution that will be beneficial for all parties.

1. They provide a feeling of security.

Some women mentioned security in their comments, and we can’t omit this point either. In fact, security is one of our basic needs, according to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. And what can make women secure and comfortable in their everyday lives? We believe that all the things we’ve discussed above can do this.

You need money and other assets to be financially secure. You need a reliable partner to spend your life with. And you need to know where your life is going. It seems that older men are better able to provide all of these things and make us feel safe.

Do you find older men attractive? Why do you like them?

Please note: This article was updated in April 2022 to correct source material and factual inaccuracies.

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I thought an older man would not have a high sex drive, preferably none to me. But i was wrong. I am happily single since last October x

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#5 Whoa, Mr.Rutherford is truly something, isn't he? ?

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it is the money, stupid, you rarely see a young woman with an oldie with no money.

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Well, yea everyone has different reasons. It could be money, maybe psychological reasons (daddy issues if you wanna be blunt) or just because. Could be like you feel safer, maybe more experience plays into the factor, for example even I wouldn't mind dating a woman who's a little older than me (not talking granny level, like 5-20 years max) solely because for experience, or just because. Love can happen instantly ya know? xD

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I went with a bloke who barely had two pennies to scratch his arse with after all his bills were paid, so not all of us are in for the money.

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Oh I see what you meant, I don't think this article was about 65 year olds with 21 year old chicks, but more of like 21 year old chicks with 40 year old guys. It is still a lot yes, but not as big. It is a bit suspicious to see an old geezer with a chick, but I mean it's the geezer business. It's his own life, and if he wants to enjoy it with the little time he has left, then let him. Btw try to express yourself better next time, I have the same problem as you xD

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Personally am attracted to him(55 yr old) for various reasons but most importantly i feel so secure around him and he is more of a partner than just a boyfriend like an age meant would have been.His maturity levels and readiness to provide makes me love him more that i am deeply blinded by his love and dont feel the 30 yrs age difference.I would rather be with him than date a 25 yr old who will only speak what he feels its what i wanna hear while doing nothing about it.

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