A Woman Loves Living Like a 1950s Housewife, So We Gathered People’s Thoughts on Personal Life Choices
Personal choices — both in relationships and in the workplace — make up one’s life. Despite the fact that some gender stereotypes still influence how individuals envision their ideal life, both men and women are equally driven to achieve their goals.
Particularly in the case of women, some opt to remain at home while others want to continue working, even after getting married. It doesn’t matter what you do as long as it makes you happy. So today, we’re sharing opinions on this subject and the significance of making these types of choices in life.
Why Alexia chose to lead the life of a typical housewife
While some women prioritize careers, others choose a more conventional lifestyle that involves full-time child care and household duties. It goes without saying that both men and women can choose to be stay-at-home people. By acknowledging that both sexes have this choice, we promote more equality and dispel preconceived ideas.
When it comes to women, we should treat everything as a genuine personal choice, acknowledging that many individuals prefer their positions as wives and moms. Nonetheless, some people choose to fully immerse themselves in the stay-at-home lifestyle, especially if their financial situation permits it. That is the case with Alexia Delarosa, who shared her thoughts on being a full-time parent and housewife.
Alexia, who is 29 years old, made the decision to be a stay-at-home mother. The woman and her husband, Matthew, agreed to take care of the housework and the kids full-time while he goes to work. “We thrive in our roles, and this arrangement works perfectly for us,” she admits, and this is mostly motivated by the fact that their financial situation allows it.
The woman loves sharing what her typical day entails as a housewife, claiming, “I have always wanted a more traditional model for my family. I loved the idea of a ’50s-style family life, where the wife stays home to look after her husband and kids, and the husband goes out to work full time.”
Whether or not we may agree with her life decision, Alexia loves it as it is, and as she remarks, “I couldn’t imagine our family any other way.”
However, we turned to the Internet to discuss all sides of the argument about these 2 potential career pathways. Everybody has their own societal and personal reasons for working or staying at home full-time. Therefore, we decided to do research and see what people think, particularly to enable all our readers to participate in a more open and nuanced conversation about this contentious topic.
Those who’d rather be stay-at-home people
- I’m currently a homemaker and love it. Our quality of life has definitely increased, as the house is tidy, the laundry is folded, the garden is a wonder, and dinner is delicious. Bills are paid on time. Home repairs are actually addressed.
I am well-exercised, well-read, and well-rested. All is well. © mofei / Reddit
- I would leave my career to stay home and be a caretaker full-time in a single second if I could. If my husband called me right now and said, “I won the lottery, it’s not much, but it’s enough to pay off our debt (house included) and we only need one income,” I’d literally go to my boss tomorrow and quit on the spot.
I’d stay home and cook and bake and volunteer if I ever got bored. I’d help my older family members, I’d take over hosting holidays. I literally dream of being a stay-at-home mom/wife. © Hey-Kristine-Kay / Reddit
- I am currently a housewife and my sister constantly talks down on me about it. She basically implies that she thinks I am being oppressed. If I wanted to go back to work, I could get up and go get a job right now! But part of feminism is letting women choose what they want, whether it’s to be a housewife or a CEO. © candywandysandyxandy / Reddit
- I am definitely more of a traditionalist when it comes to relationships and marriage. So I do want to be a housewife one day. If a man is good to me and takes care of me, nothing makes me feel better than taking care of him. I do want him to come home to a clean house and a delicious dinner. I do think it is a love language. Act of service. Nurturing.
I know there are men out there that want this. For me, I don’t see the point of running myself into the ground and building a career just to throw it away, when I want to be a housewife anyway. It seems the consensus is that if you straight up state you’re not a career woman, and you really just want to stay home and take care of your man, you’re lazy. But if you’re a career woman, they then want to convince you to leave your job and become a housewife, and they’ll take care of you. © hereonaccident33 / Reddit
- I’m a 20-year-old male and speaking from my point of view, I think it’s awesome that if I had the opinion, I would want to be a stay-at-home parent. I don’t have to deal with stressful managers or a toxic workplace, cleaning a regular-sized home is very easy and efficient with all the technology we have nowadays. The only thing I can really think of that might be a pain to deal with is cooking, which takes practice and patience, lastly including taking care of the kids, which is easier said than done, but as the years go by, the kids start becoming self-sufficient and your involvement in babysitting decreases, thus, giving you a lot of free time. © The_Lord134 / Reddit
- You realize work isn’t “all of life’s responsibilities” and it’s not uncommon for a stay-at-home partner to have more responsibilities than a working one, right? Over the course of my 12-year relationship with my husband, I have run the gamut from full-time student to full-time work to staying home with no kids to being home with a kid, and staying home with no kid was the best dynamic for us. My husband loved it because his time off was truly time off because I was home to run errands or any of the other hundreds of things I found to fill my time. © tipsycup / Reddit
- I’m married without children, and I’m a housewife too. Although I got my university degree in theater, I’m a qualified financial adviser and worked for over 12 years in the financial services industry. I cook or bake most meals from scratch, clean, tidy, run errands, as well as shop around to make sure I’m using our money well. I’ve become very good at DIY, plumbing, and house repairs, so when something breaks, I’ll fix it myself if possible.
That said, there is no “clocking-out time” for me; I’m always at work. I love my husband very much, and it means the world to me that I’m able to provide a home for him, but just because I don’t physically leave the house to work in exchange for an employer paying me money, that doesn’t mean I don’t work exceptionally hard at my role. I genuinely don’t know how so many people manage to successfully juggle their spouse, household, extended family, budgeting, and children. © SylviaMarsh / Reddit
- I was a homemaker for about 6 years. I loved it. We saved a lot of money because I cooked and baked from scratch and did all of the work around the house. I did so much fun stuff with my kids. I have a lot of guilt because I work full-time now and my youngest doesn’t get those special memory-building times. Being a homemaker was 10 times harder than being a working mom, but a thousand times more rewarding. © 143019 / Reddit
- I’ve always pictured myself getting married and being a mom. For years, this maternal desire has conflicted with my values, namely self-reliance and a career, and I told myself that I didn’t want to make the same mistakes my mom did that now force her to work jobs that she hates.
And it’s not that I don’t think a married woman with children can’t also have a career, but I can’t picture myself being both at the same time. I skipped school yesterday to clean and cook. Now I have a project due in 4 hours that I don’t even care about because I don’t feel like I want to have a career anymore. © wannabemommy / Reddit
- I’m a stay-at-home wife. My husband loves it because he works from home, so we’re together all the time. I enjoy it because my whole day is devoted to just taking care of us and our home. We both appreciate my having the time and energy to cook 3 times a day.
My spouse puts money into a savings account in my name only every paycheck, so I don’t feel trapped — his words, not mine. I didn’t ask for it and never touch it, but I felt so loved when he started it. Such a thoughtful gesture. © EpicMoniker / Reddit
Those who prefer having a career and a professional life
- I don’t think I’ll ever be a stay-at-home mom, as fun as it sounds, and I personally don’t look down on women who make the choice. My mom was a workaholic, and I always thought I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom. But then I got into a field that I genuinely really love and get a lot of personal worth from. So my main criticism, if I had to have one, is that stay-at-home women should maintain some workforce skills and consider having financial discussions prior to marriage. © SelectionGrand / Reddit
- I don’t exactly like to clean/cook/grocery shop, and I tend to go a little crazy when I just sit around at home without doing some mentally stimulating activity (studying/working on a project) for more than a few days. Besides, even if that weren’t the case, I don’t think I’d like feeling financially dependent on someone else, and what if something happened to my partner, or we got divorced? I’d have a huge gap in my work experience, and that’d look bad to a potential employer. © cucai / Reddit
- I love working. It keeps me feeling productive, forces me to socialize, and gives me a feeling of purpose in my life. Once I took a week off just to stay at home and relax, and it drove me absolutely insane. © sunshinecliffs / Reddit
- I have no intention of ever having kids and I love my career, so I wouldn’t want to be a housewife. Now, if we could both be independently wealthy and just hang out/travel all the time, I’d be 100% for it. I just don’t see the point in me staying at home while my husband works. © nevertruly / Reddit
- I have no interest whatsoever in being a house husband. I don’t want a housewife either. I’d consider myself a pretty driven, ambitious person, and I want a wife who has her own goals and ambitions as well. © Bumblebee-Emergency / Reddit
- I would find that life uninteresting. However, there are plenty of people of both genders who would be happy to be stay-at-home spouses. I like my work and the feeling of freedom that comes with being able to support myself and I don’t really like all the standard domestic chores and don’t have kids, so I wouldn’t enjoy being a housewife. © nevertruly / Reddit
- I just know too many stories of controlling men and wives who eventually are resentful toward their husbands for being stuck at home. Of course, it depends on the actual future situation. Neither of my parents has ever stayed at home, and my dad would always tell me to run if a guy told me I didn’t have to work because he’d take care of me.
My dad’s biggest fear when I dated my ex was that I’d stop working since he made a lot more money than me, and my parents have paid too much for my education for me to not work. I also don’t think I can take care of the house. © shegotofftheplane / Reddit
- Being a housewife would be a nightmare for me. I get really bored and depressed without obligations and structure in my life. I need something interesting to keep me inspired and motivated and for me, work is a big part of that. Also, considering I’m a doctoral student going into a career that I love, I’m not going to waste all the blood, sweat, tears, and money I’ve put into my education just to not use it.
I want to devote my life to research and helping people. Besides, I like being independent, I want my own money, I want to be able to pay off my loans myself and I really would probably be happiest in a household where both my partner and I were working in fields we loved doing awesome things out in the world. © ahatmadeofshoes12 / Reddit
- I’d feel weird about not earning my share of the income, feeling like it wasn’t my money. Even if you were cool with it, I don’t think I’d be comfortable. © Joywalking / Reddit
- I’m a workaholic and I love school. I always need to be either in school or working, or both. I’m not going to college for 4 years and racking up student debt to stay home 24/7. Plus, I feel like I would be paranoid all the time. What happens if my significant other loses their job? © WeAreGiraffes / Reddit