I Refuse to Give My Childfree Daughter My Inheritance

Family & kids

3 weeks ago

Apeksha N.

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Tina b

week ago

My mother never had much to leave us kids but we were loved, her dad died before her mother and her brother tried to demand things , so my grandmother signed it all to my mom, but most went to pay her medical bills, the one thing there was was land in Missouri, but my sister and uncle made sure I didn't get the tax form to pay the taxes and we lost it to, that's life, but you want to force your daughter to have a kid to get her inheritance, your a lousy parent, my mom wanted a son and had three girls, but again that's life, your right it's your money you can do what you want with it, but your to legacy doesn't die with you, you have a daughter that is your legacy the fact you can't see that I feel sorry for you.

When I tell people this story, they either call me heartless or say they totally understand where I am coming from. I am honestly not sure why some think I am the bad guy here, which is why I am putting it out online. What would you have done in my place?

My wife and I always dreamt of having grandkids. My daughter is my only child. We worked hard all our lives. We saved, invested in property, and built something solid to pass on.

I always imagined grandchildren running around, knowing that everything we worked for would go to them one day. But now, that picture is gone.

Stersil

2 weeks ago

Potential grandmother wants grandkids. So what. She can adopt some. Daughter is not here to heal her mother's a dreams. I wanted children from the age of nine so I knew that I would always be a mother. However my mother never ever brought up the idea of grandchildren those decisions were best left to me and my husband. She was not a narcissist she understood those decisions were my choice. This lady should get some therapy. She always imagined grandkids running around well what if she only have one child herself.? She does not have the responsibility of rearing the children waking up in the middle of the night wiping runny noses and all the other sacrifices that must be made when you have a child. I'm sure there are organizations where you can adopt a grandchild who has no grandparents. She should think those organizations out.

My daughter is now 36, unmarried, and doesn’t plan on ever having babies. I strictly told her to reconsider or bid her inheritance goodbye. She laughed and left.

The idea of my life’s work just ending with me is hard to accept. For me, inheritance is about family legacy. It is about passing down something that keeps our name alive. If there are no kids, no grandkids, then what is the point?

I told my daughter I will leave everything to my nephew, who already has a family. At least with him, I know my legacy will continue.

When she heard this, she exploded. She called me controlling and said I was punishing her for living her life how she wants. She said inheritance should be about love, not conditions.

Deborah Crowder

week ago

If you have a legacy that you want to survive you...think about doing something good with it. You could leave your daughter enough to ensure her comfort...the rest could endow scholarships for kids who would not be able to attend college, trade school, whatever. You could create a charity or contribute to one that's already benefiting something/someone you are passion about. There are lots of ways of ensuring that your legacy survives you. Be creative not controlling.

We had a huge argument. She accused me of valuing hypothetical grandkids more than her. She said I was throwing her away just because she does not want children. I told her it is not about punishing her, it is about making sure everything I worked for does not die with me.

Now she barely speaks to me. I froze when I found out later that she is telling everyone in our connection that I am heartless and “old school”. I think she is selfish, and well, it is MY money. I have the right to do whatever with it, just like her right to remain childfree.

I know many people today choose to be childfree. I get that times have changed. But is it really wrong to want my bloodline to continue? Is it wrong to tie my inheritance to that?

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Jerry Leong

week ago

How can a parent, like yourself, be so selfish, self-centered and uncaring. If you want to leave a legacy, it should be one of people remembering you as a kind, selfless snd caring person. It is because of your behaviour that you have not been blessed with grandchildren. Go get a dog then and pass inheritance to it! Stupid!

Vicky Lubbe (The Viking)

week ago

Donate it to Charity. There are many Children that would value your help to further and better their lives. It is your money, at the end it is your decision.

Tey

week ago

Are you f**king right in the head. Did you ever stop to think that there could be a reason behind your daughter not wanting children did it even occur to you that she might mot be able to have children.
Maybe you and your sexist views could be a big part in why she has chosen not to st art a family.
She is your daughter you should love her simply because she is your child and not just for her reproductive organs.
You are a massive A-Hole who needs to go back to school and learn that women are equal to men and have not been put on this earth just to have babies.
Your so called legacy don't mean a thing if you don't value your own flesh and blood for who she is
How about you think long and hard on if you actually love your daughter for who she is or do you only love what her womb could give you.

Nicky H

week ago

You're entitled to your hopes but deciding your daughters life for her is the height of selfish and controlling!!! Absolutely no one should be forced into parenthood!

Plus it's a different world than the one you grew up in. The cost of raising a child is staggering. One must be willing to sacrifice pretty much everything.

Brenda Jackson

week ago

Dad maybe you should have had more kids in dome for or other, if you all couldn't procreate anymore, then you wouldn't have to put this kind of responsibility onto her. It isn't rught!