I Refuse to Give My Childfree Daughter My Inheritance

YOUR DAUGHTER IS THE LEGACY, the rest is just stuff. My late FIL was frugal to the point of making a unhoused person look rich. I tried to convince him to spend his money on himself and my MIL. Nope, he left it all for the 5 adult children and it was a cluster fuck. He couldn't see that his children (and that is how he always treated them, like children) were grown up people who could make their own way. I loved that old man and regardless of what he left my spouse and the other kids,
( I was his and my MIL's caregiver for the last 5 years of their lives and got the joy of his friendship. His own kids didn't have that). I miss him and listening to his stories. It's a pity that you can't see past what YOU WANT. Guess YOU should have had more kids to try and push into following YOUR wishes. You lose now.

Hmm what if she wanted kids but was unable? It's your assets to dispense as you please but requiring her to breed as a condition of inheriting is ......I have no words.

If you have a legacy that you want to survive you...think about doing something good with it. You could leave your daughter enough to ensure her comfort...the rest could endow scholarships for kids who would not be able to attend college, trade school, whatever. You could create a charity or contribute to one that's already benefiting something/someone you are passion about. There are lots of ways of ensuring that your legacy survives you. Be creative not controlling.

1st you do you. But know your by blood child can contest your will.. even if you decide to leave everything to your nephew.. and the fact you are putting a price on your 'grandchildren" by trying to force your daughter to surrender her happiness and possibly health shows she's right for letting your bloodline die with you

Your legacy? It appears to be manipulating, judgmental, and controlling. That’s what you care to pass on to another generation? I’m glad you’re saving her from inheriting that. She doesn’t need to be dragged down to your level. May she live a long, healthy, and happy life!

I think you’re wrong to tell your daughter that she won’t have an inheritance because she doesn’t have children & doesn’t plan to.
I have several different ways of viewing this.
First, if this is your plan, why tell her? Just let the will be read at that time, and the explanation could be “he wanted the family to continue so he”ll leave his money to the nephews.”
Maybe your reason to tell her is to spur her on to have kids. That’s not likely to change her mind. So that plan didn’t work.
Perhaps you could split the inheritance between your daughter and your nephew.
But know this: just become you leave it to your nephew doesn’t mean that he will pass it on to his kids. It will be his money then and he can do as he wants.He may want to spend it on a vacation home, or pay for all of their college expenses. You also need to realize that your great nephews may use the money as they wish also. There is a train of thought that says “the 1st generation earns it, the 2nd generation spends it, & the 3rd generation squanders what’s left of it.”
The other thing to consider is that she is only 36. When she’s 46 she may decide to adopt some kids, or when she turns 40 she may decide to have a baby. You don’t really know. I’ve heard of that kind of thing happening. But the more you talk about it and try to push it, the more she’s likely to dig in her heels. People don’t like to be told what to do in terms of how they live their lives.
I think you should apologize to your daughter for not recognizing how she wants to live her life..You can say that you said words in anger that you don’t really mean, unless you still want to cut her out. Maybe you can suggest to her that you plan to leave her 50/75%, and with the rest, you plan to donate it to charity in the name of your family, or set up a scholarship fund in your name, with a plan to make that money grow, so as to continue giving.
But however, you choose to handle it, I do think that you’re incredibly wrong. If my father had said something like that to me, I would have been very hurt, angry, and it would’ve made me think that he just saw me as someone to supply him with grandchildren, & didn’t see me as the person I had become. It would also make me think “ My own father thinks that I’m so shallow I would change my mind over money.” You need to fix this soon, before it kills your relationship with your only child.

There are a lot of me statements here. Id tell them they shouldve had more kids and would probably go no contact. Now it really ends with you.
Thankful for my parents that definitely have nothing to leave me, but they love me no matter what and would never be so cruel.

Well I don't really care about your conditions and your money. I think that you should be more concerned about your relationship with your daughter and for you to give her cousin her inheritance because she won't give you a grandchild is really effed up! This world is really hard for all of us to live in, but to have your parent condition their love on your behavior is just a horrible situation to put your child in.

So heartwarming to see a father's love for his daughter.

What legacy lmao 🤣 it's always the no name that talks about "legacy". Unless you are inventive, creative or uber rich, it takes less than a decade for you to be nothing but memories and by the end of this century, even that will not remain.

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Sounds like the daughter is a Very selfish, self-centered, spoiled brat. I don't blame her parents. I'd leave my legacy to the nephew also! He would be more apt to continue on the legacy. The daughter would sell everything for money. Make a will and be sure it can't be contested, reversed, changed, or challenged in any way!

Yta!! I absolutely agree with her
I think I'd never speak to you again.