A mom booked her daughter’s dream beachfront wedding venue, then her sister begged her to change it. Past affairs, family drama, and heartbreak collide. See what happened when family loyalty clashed with long-held dreams.
A woman shared her family drama on Reddit, and it’s already sparking debate. She wrote:
“I (51F) put down a $20K non-refundable deposit on this gorgeous beachfront estate for my daughter, let’s call her Amy’s (26F), wedding next September. We booked it 18 months out. For context, and without revealing too much, it’s THE venue in our area, and it has been Amy’s dream wedding spot in all of her Pinterest boards.”
The trouble started when her sister, Carol (53F), discovered some shocking news. “Last month, my sister found out her cheating ex-husband, let’s call him Mark (55M), proposed to his coworker (28F—she was 22 when they started having an affair) who he had been having an affair with. The woman posted engagement photos from the same venue... specifically the beautiful beach area where Amy plans to have her ceremony.”
She continued: “She called me sobbing, begging me to change venues. Says she can’t watch Amy get married where Mark proposed to a girl younger than his own daughter. Can’t smile for photos on THAT beach.”
The mom explained her dilemma: “I feel sick for her. I do. But: Save-the-dates already sent. Amy’s dreamed of this venue since high school. Everything else is booked or three times the price.”
She continued: “I told Carol I can’t lose the deposit and crush Amy’s dreams. Carol says I’m choosing money over her mental health. That I’m forcing her to relive the worst betrayal of her life for ’pretty pictures’.”
“I also talked to Amy about it, and she does not want a venue change. That it’s not her fault Mark (who has been out of all our lives for the last 5 years) ruined that place for Carol.” The tension escalated. “Carol called Amy a ’spoiled’ person who wouldn’t understand real pain.”
“Now Carol’s skipping Thanksgiving. My and Carol’s side of the family (her daughters and, to some extent, my parents) says I’m heartless. The place is cursed anyway, why should we host Amy’s big day there?”
She ended with a final note on family loyalty: “My husband’s side of the family says Carol doesn’t get to hijack Amy’s wedding because her husband’s a cheater.”
If Carol is having such a hard time with the place she doesn't have to attend. If anyone is being selfish it's Carol. How does she intend deal with life's other bad stuff? Stay in her home and bury her head underneath her pillow for the rest of her life? And if she can't deal with happy pictures of your daughter's happy day at the beach house she need not look at them.
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Amy should send all the family members that are giving you a hard time a nice letter, informing them that since they decided that her choice of venue is wrong because it somehow offends Carol, that she understands if they don't want to attend. Then it makes them all look like the jerks because the bride is being understanding of the fact that they're putting your sister's drama in front of her happy day.
