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I Refuse to Get a Lower Salary Than the Colleague I Trained

Workplace inequality, salary gaps, and unfair promotions are becoming common struggles for many employees. More people are speaking up about being overlooked, underpaid, or replaced by newer colleagues. These situations raise questions about self-worth, loyalty, and career growth. Recently, a reader wrote to us about facing this exact challenge.
Lena’s letter:
Dear Bright Side,
I’ve been working at this company for 9 years. A few days ago, during a lunch break chat, my younger colleague accidentally revealed her salary: she earns 30% more than me.
What made me furious is that she’s only been here for 2 years, and I spent months training her. I’m
clearly more productive and faster.
I confronted HR immediately. Instead of an explanation, I got a threat. She said, “Salaries are confidential, sharing this info gets you fired!” I just smiled and went back to my desk.
The next day, I came in early to clear my desk. I took all my belongings, and when everyone arrived, they froze when they saw my empty table and my younger colleague’s desk moved into my spot.
I stood and announced, “Since I’m getting warnings about being fired, I’m saving you the effort and firing myself from this company!”
I revealed to everyone that I was quitting. A competitive firm had been approaching me for a while, and I’ll be taking their senior position offer.
This was terrible news for HR because they don’t want my experience going to the competition. Now HR is begging me to stay and offering a 35% raise. I refused at first, but now I’m rethinking.
Should I accept their offer? I’ve invested so many years here, and the new salary would be considerably higher.
Am I making the wrong choice by leaving?
Yours,
Lena

Thank you, Lena, for trusting us with such a powerful and emotional story. You’ve handled an unfair situation with clarity and strength, and your letter shows how much thought you’ve already put into your next step.
We’ve looked closely at everything you shared, and below is the advice we’ve prepared for you.
Treat Your “Power Exit” as Strategic Leverage, Not Emotion.

100 percent leave you kicked the hornets nest and if the company is underpaying you they do not care about you if your client based they don't wanna lose the clients not sure if it's legal but tell your client you are leaving and they would be welcome to continue the working relationship and trust you have built and the new company I'm sure your new employer would love the new business DO NOT TRUST YOUR CURRENT EMPLOYER and good luck with your new job
I'm going to say something that a lot of people are not going to like but first some background about me I ran the third largest Federal Union in the United States, I helped implement the Ada in the federal government for afge or along with afg national leaders. That being said I have a significant amount of experience with labor law. What human resources said is 100% inappropriate and illegal. However there are some caveats to the law. First and foremost you cannot be prevented from discussing your salary with your coworkers at any time with the following exception: management can declare that you may not discuss any personnel actions on company time and on company property. This would legally be considered stealing time or malingering or not doing your job and wasting time. If the statement is phrased in that regard then HR would have been 100% correct. Now a lot of you are going to say but the federal law but the federal law that is true federal law allows you to talk about your salary but it doesn't specifically state that you haven't implicit right to discuss it at any time and at work you should be focused on work. Additionally there are several people myself included that do not wish to talk about their personnel actions. I make it a policy not to discuss my salary my sick leave my vacation my bonuses if I get any my benefits or anything like that. Now I can talk in general terms but I will not get into specifics. When you're in the Federal government, your grade and step are public knowledge. So when I started I was a gs7 step one and economist when I left I was a GS 12 step 2. This is public knowledge. Now at the department of Labor bonuses were paid based on your evaluation the lowest passing evaluation which is a decent evaluation is fully successful. Our contract with the department did not require a performance bonus paid out if you got a fully successful. Additionally there were limited amounts of money to be paid for bonuses and people that got highly effective or outstanding were mandated to get minimum bonuses. Those bonuses were hard to get or actually those ratings were hard to get and few people got them. There was no requirement to pay everyone that got a fully successful a bonus. Often if there was left over money after the highly effective and outstandings were paid off people with fully successful got money and there was a minimum amount of money that you would get by contract. It wasn't enough to cover everyone in the office I worked in and typically the people that got the bonuses were in the quote in crowd quote. I got into a discussion with somebody that got a bonus and also got a fully successful I got nothing their response was well it was only $200 and I said that was $200 more than I got and I was in a pretty pissed off mood for a couple of months over it. Additionally I stopped helping that person and it caused some friction in the office. I changed my attitude because essentially what I was doing was creating a hostile work environment which goes into my second point. It is possible that there are people in the office that do not want to talk about or hear the discussion of any kind of personnel action or event and that is protected under the law as well with regards to creating a safe psychological space as they now call it in the most woke States. But federal law does allow an employee to complain that a hostile work is it is the impact of the conversation and not the intent of the conversation that matters. In other words, your discussion with a coworker about your salary might upset me just by the fact that you're having it and I have the legal right to go to HR and make a formal complaint. Thus management is permitted to limit conversations that are non-work-related in the office space. This has been upheld in almost every instance for the employer when it is gone before the authorities namely the flra which is the federal labor board and the nlrb which is for Private industry. So mm
With regards to the issue of taking the raise and staying I would consider that to be a bad idea. In many instances you are blacklisted for causing problems and they will remove you the first chance they get I have seen that happen many times. You're better off going to the new company you rock the boat you're now a troublemaker you may have gotten the salary but the company will find a way to recoup the money as soon as possible
So bootlicker
It is federally illegal for them to tell you that you can't share salaries, let alone make a policy about it and has been for years.
Exactly what my company tried to do because the new people coming in were making more than the employees that had been there for years.
Your dramatic exit flipped the power dynamic and revealed your true market value. Before deciding, compare the competing firm’s path, growth, and long-game upside to HR’s sudden 35% raise.
Do a quick “regret test”: imagining staying: does it feel empowering or suffocating? You currently hold all leverage; don’t give it back out of nostalgia.
Ask Why They Only Valued You After You Left.
This wasn’t just a salary issue; it exposed how comfortable they were underpaying you for 9 years. HR threatened you instead of fixing the gap, that’s a major organizational red flag.
Examine who benefited from your low pay, and whether the culture itself rewarded your silence. If nothing inside has changed, the raise is panic, not respect.
Test Their Intent With a “Future Conditions Agreement”.
If you’re even considering staying, don’t just accept the raise. Ask for a written advancement roadmap: timelines for responsibility growth, leadership duties, and transparent pay-band criteria.
Their reaction will tell you everything. If they stall or deflect, you’ll know the 35% raise is temporary damage control rather than a real commitment.
Evaluate the Rival Firm in Your Career Moment.

The pay increase is a temporary response to keep you there. They probably gave everyone a pay increase so those you have trained will still make more than you. If the title alone at the other company enhances your resume, take the job.
A senior role at the rival company isn’t just a new job, it could be a career upgrade. They want you for your speed, expertise, and 9 years of mastery. Compare their enthusiasm to your current employer, who only reacted once losing you became a threat.
Ask yourself: where will you grow, lead, and feel valued without repeating this drama? Moving to the competitor might be your real level-up, not an escape.
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Comments
The author appears to be claiming that the employee in question should move and leave his job for once we agree on both of those issues
Don't forget: a kick somewhere is a big (huge) step forward. So don't hesitate, go to the new job. As and after a few years, look for a new opportunity.
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