Sounds like you are a greedy spoiled brat, and your dad knew it. That's why he bought her that apartment because he knew what you would do. Too bad he didn't leave the house to her and leave you nothing! Doesn't sound like you are a kind person!
I Refuse to Let My Dad’s Widow Live Rent-Free — This Is My House Now
Inheritance disputes can escalate rapidly. When Rebecca’s father passed away and left her the family home, she gave her stepmother an ultimatum: start paying rent or vacate the property. After her stepmother declined, Rebecca went ahead with the eviction. However, what initially seemed straightforward soon unraveled with an unforeseen complication, leaving Rebecca bewildered and searching for guidance.
Rebecca’s letter:
Nicely said
Sounds like dad had your number from the beginning. Creep.
Be glad that your dad left you something. He could have left all of his property to his legal, surviving wife. You're trying to treat her as though she's his mistress. Are you the unreasonable one? Yes.
First of all, ur dad bought that property for her, not you. He obviously knows u pretty well, he knew she would need a place after he died.
Maybe next time u could be a bit more sensitive & less selfish in how u treat other people. I can't believe u have the nerve to feel betrayed, imagine how she felt being thrown out of the home she shared with her husband. You could have taken ownership of the house after she passed & u would have had the other place as well. The property is hers & she can do whatever she likes with it.
Couldn't have summarized it better than that. Total agreement.
Learn about Karma & accept it
She was his wife! She was entitled to it. He was more than fair and took care of both of you. Now she is taking care of her family (Son), just as it should be. Time to move on, she has!!😄
Your dad was a fair man. He made provision for both of you. The apartment ( which you didn't know about) will have been yours if you exercised some kindness and empathy toward your stepmom. Why are you so cut up about it? You have your dad's house. Move on!
You need to share. Obviously your dad was a kind man and so you should let the son have the other property. The stepmother probably took care of your dad and this would be a nice gesture to her for what she has done.
your Dad lived his life you live yours just stop being greedy and be thankful
Stop being greedy. You could have let her live there and she probably would've told you if given the chance that she had a place to stay. Now if there was a huge mortgage on the home then maybe charge a little rent but if not its not very nice.
You should start by being a less greedy. Even your Dad knew you would probably throw step-mom out. He married her and he promised to take care of her and he did. Shame on you for wanting more. You got the house and was happy until you found out that your step-mom was being taken care of. You can't have it all.
True just let your stepmother be she's old enough to take care of herself and her son...leave her alone if you had already evicted her...have a pleasant day.
GFYS
Funny you had no Idea of what was written on your dad's will and even worse,you didn't have your dad's Inventory of all his assets.
Do you even know if the apartment was bought on your dad's name or his wife's name?
Buildings and contents don't make memorys and I'm guessing your dad knew what you would do so preempted it by buying the apartment before we recently had the same situation with my father-in-law his partner of 40 years passed and his family couldn't hait to get the house thet they had lived in together and he had paid into so all in all Its personally think you deserve nothing not even the house you have
It's easy to be a hindsight, but if you hadn't been so stingy, things would have been different. Yes you threw her out and unfortunately your father knew how you were because he wrote the way he did about the apartment. He knew that as soon as he was gone, your greed would strike.
as you make your bed, you must lie...In fact, she had no obligation to speak of the conditions your father had set... blame yourself.
Hello Rebecca! We appreciate you telling us your story. Here are four different recommendations that could provide some helpful direction.
Explore legal avenues for the apartment agreement.
Because the arrangement regarding the apartment indirectly involves you, it’s essential to explore if there’s any legal action you can take. Consult with an attorney experienced in estate or property law to determine if you can contest the agreement or argue that circumstances have shifted. Knowing your legal rights in this matter may give you leverage to negotiate with her or her son.
Explore mediation for a compromise solution.
Though emotions are likely intense, bringing in a mediator might help you and your dad’s wife find common ground. You may be able to negotiate a revised arrangement where the apartment could be divided or shared in some way. Even if she intends to leave the apartment to her son, mediation could lead to a compromise that satisfies both of you, easing tensions and avoiding further conflict.
Leverage emotional ties to appeal to her sense of fairness.
It’s clear your dad’s wife has likely been defensive since being made to leave the house, and she may still hold onto those feelings. You might consider approaching her for a candid conversation, focusing on the bond you both shared with your father and the sense of betrayal you’re experiencing.
Embrace the circumstances and prioritize preserving your Dad’s legacy.
As difficult as it may be, you might want to come to terms with the apartment going to her son and shift your focus to what remains—your dad’s house. His legacy can endure through the home you’ve inherited, and you can honor him by turning it into a meaningful space that reflects his memory.
Adopting this perspective may help you heal from the betrayal, allowing you to move past the conflict over material things and instead concentrate on cherishing what you still have of him.
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