A grown child is suddenly burdened with major responsibilities when a parent makes life-changing plans without considering their input.
Hello Bright Side!
I’m 30, the oldest of four, and I finally thought I was done raising siblings. I’ve helped with my younger siblings for years, so I thought I could finally focus on my own life. Then last night at the dinner table, my mom dropped a bombshell. She’s pregnant after a fling. The father’s long gone, but she’s keeping the baby.
After telling me, she pulled out a stack of papers and started walking me through plans for the baby, things she said I “needed” to organize and handle. Budgets, schedules, lists of what she expected me to do. She acted like it was normal for me to take charge before the baby was even born.
Wow. Your mother has some nerve. Her choice to have a baby on her own. If she can't raise it she can surrender it for adoption. This is NOT your circus not your monkey. She's out of her mind to think this is an appropriate request. She's old enough to know actions have consequences.
I froze at the table. I felt blindsided, overwhelmed, and honestly angry. She kept talking as if I had no choice and that I would naturally step up because that’s what I always do. It felt manipulative, like she was guilt-tripping me into doing most of the work before even asking if I wanted to be involved.
I walked out because I couldn’t process it. I want to support her, but this feels like she’s trying to dump responsibility on me. I feel stuck between wanting to help my mom and wanting to protect my own life and sanity.
Am I wrong for being upset that my mom seems to expect me to handle this new baby before it’s even here?
Sincerely,
Evelyn.
Thank you for writing, Evelyn. Opening up about these moments takes courage, and your story shows how deeply family ties shape the way we navigate life.
Nope Nope Nope. You went above and beyond by helping with your younger siblings. YOUR mother is choosing to have this baby NOT YOU. Honestly I'd tell your mother that you're sorry but you don't have the time/finances to help this time. You aren't now nor were you legally responsible for helping raise your younger siblings. This is YOUR LIFE and if you have to go low/no contact with your mother than do it for your sanity because if you don't she's going to continue to exploit you as she has done for years. It's OK to say NO and put boundaries on your relationship. You can continue to be there for your siblings BUT only in a capacity you can deal with emotionally, physically and financially.
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