Family is meant to provide unwavering support during our toughest times, but life can throw us into incredibly difficult situations. Just as Leah’s wedding approached, tragedy struck: her sister’s husband and son tragically passed away just days before the ceremony. In the midst of this heartache, Leah’s sister insisted she cancel the wedding, but she stood her ground.
However, what followed was a heartbreaking turn of events. Leah shared her story with us.
Were I in the position of rhe OP, I would have called all the venues and services before giving an answer to my sister. The right thing to do would have been to postpone, but not of it meant losing a lot of money, and even then, I probably would have toned it down. Were I the sister to have lost my husband and child like that, in my grief, I might have gone full blown petty and scheduled the funerals for the same day as the wedding
I think many venues and caterers would understand about a death in the family and allow you to postpone. You don't have to sacrifice your special day to pay respects to your Brother in law and nephew. You could have spared a few moments for silence in remembrance of them.
Even though it may seem like she isn't feeling bad for the loss of her nephew, she may not be able to change the dates, caterers or the venues at such a late date without losing thousands of dollars. This wedding has been planned for months. Weddings have gone on as planned for centuries even with the death of family members. I don't think it's something the sister really wants to do, but I'm sure she can't afford to lose thousands of dollars to reschedule.
I agree with the prices of everything included in the wedding it would have been almost impossible to postpone everything even if she wanted to without loosing a ton of money I'm sure the wedding was almost paid for by then. I agree they should have had a few minutes of silence in remembrance of the brother-in-law and nephew but her sister should not have expected her to completely cancel her wedding. I'm sure the sister was grieving but what she done in my opinion was unforgivable to ruin her sister's big day they will always be a dark cloud hanging over their anniversaries for a long time and not to mention the irreversible damage to both sister's.
She does have the right to do what she did , but also it is so bad what you did , you can easy postpone your wedding a week or two , also blame your husband not advising you to do that
The sister had absolutely NO RIGHT to ruin her sister's wedding. No, a wedding can't be easily postponed a week or two. The deposits on the venue, food, flowers, etc. would have been lost. The venue may have been already booked by other people. What about the guests? Not everyone can simply change their day off for a couple of weeks later. Everything would have been RUINED.
Instead of automatically saying no to cancelling your wedding you should have said I will look into it but no guarantees. You're whole family was grieving especially your sister. I had my third child 3 days after my brother's third child died he was being buried while I was in labor all I kept saying was I don't want one born the same day as one is being buried and apologized to them. That was a situation that couldn't be helped and I still thought of them. You're wedding is something you could of least looked into
Hi Leah! Thank you for sharing your story with us. We have some tips that we hope can be helpful to you.
Well Here's a question. Did you love your nephew? It would seem to me if I just lost two members of my family especially my nephew no one would have to ask me to postpone my wedding & reception because I would have eaten the money because I would have been grieving too,! Im almost betting you had a great honeymoon planned & went on too!! I realize you are newly married with no children but you should have had some empathy at least!! Did you ever think to just have the wedding ceremony but cancel the reception!?!? It's not the wedding proceeding that I don't understand it's having a party & dancing like no one matters but yourself & your new husband! Also, you two must be perfect for each other because if something like that would've happened to my future husband before our wedding day even if he would have wanted to move forward with our original plans I for certain would not! I can't imagine anyone you two know looking at the two of you the same way!! In my opinion you left your sister alone in her pain & while her world fell apart you were on the sidelines checking on the music & flight reservations! You are a very selfish & heartless person what did the rest of your family or his think of what you did?? You seem to want people to feel sorry for YOU because you feel life she ruined your day, but did you stop to consider your sisters whole future & life were lruined??? You could have had your wedding & used the catering to host a wake or celebration of life for your young nephew & brother in law!!! SMH.. there's no way two selfish people can make a marriage last especially one that began with the death of your family members .
Reach out to your sister and sincerely apologize for not postponing the wedding. Acknowledge the immense pain she is going through and express regret for not being more considerate of her feelings. Let her know that you understand how your decision hurt her and that you want to support her through this difficult time.
I would do nothing if your sister needs closure let her do all these things.wakes and funerals are supposed to do thar
To honor your nephew and brother-in-law, consider organizing a memorial event in their memory. This can be a small, intimate gathering where family and friends can come together to remember them. This gesture can show your sister that you care deeply about her loss and are willing to make an effort to honor their memory.
Propose family mediation to address the conflict between you and your sister. A professional mediator can help facilitate a constructive conversation, allowing both of you to express your feelings and grievances. This can help in finding a path to reconciliation and understanding each other’s perspectives better.
I would do nothing your sister needs counceling.Id be there if she reached out.Thats it
Show your sister that you are committed to being there for her in the long run. This could involve regular visits, helping her with daily tasks, or simply being available to listen. By consistently supporting her through her grief, you can rebuild trust and demonstrate that you care about her well-being despite the initial hurt caused by your decision.
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This is appalling! I can understand her pain as I've recently lost my partner of 20yrs to suicide,however she is clearly grieving&shouldn't have attended! You have also lost nephew(s) &she hasn't took anyone else's feelings into consideration! I'd reach out to her&explain that there's a lot to put into a wedding&with family coming from different places it's not an easy task to get a date that,after lockdown,has became an even harder chore,I truly hope that you's both get the chance to speak about it&can see it from both sides! 🙏🙏🙏🤍🤍🤍
