Jada Pinkett Smith’s Story That Shows Accepting a Stepchild Can Be the Purest Act of Love
The stories of fairy godmothers and princesses that we all heard when we were kids always came with a somewhat evil character that messed everything up: stepmothers. It’s rare to find a good and kind stepmother in children’s stories who is overflowing with love for her stepchildren. However, in real life, this is often far from the truth.
At Bright Side, we want to pay tribute to Jada Pinkett Smith, a stepmother, mom, and wife — in short, the woman who moved us with her words through social media.
Jada Pinkett met Will Smith while auditioning for the hit series, The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, in the early 1990s. At that time, Will was married to fellow actress, Sheree Zampino, and was already a father to Trey, their firstborn.
On December 31, 1997, Jada and Will got married, and in 1998, their first son, Jaden, was born, followed by their daughter, Willow, in 2000, to complete the Smith team. They were a beautiful family, envied by many in the entertainment world.
In 2013, the actress wrote a letter that she posted on her Facebook page that began with: “Blended families are NEVER easy, but here’s why I don’t have a lot of sympathy for your situation because...we CHOOSE them. When I married Will, I knew Trey was part of the package...Period! If I didn’t want that...I needed to marry someone else.”
In blended families, it can be complex for stepchildren and stepparents to establish a good relationship since it’s practically imposed. You’re pretty much starting a family with unknown people. Generally speaking, children are the most affected by this.
However, Jada was aware of this situation and willing to do her best to minimize the impact. She also wrote: “Then I learned that if I wanted to love Trey, I had to learn to love the most important person in his world: his mom. We may not have always liked each other, but we have learned to love each other.”
Jada, aware of the need for a father figure while children grow and the presence of children in the lives of men, invited women not to encourage the breakdown of the parent-child relationship with these words: “I can’t support any actions that keep a man from his children of a previous marriage. These are the situations that separate the women from the girls. Your behavior is that of an insecure child who needs to recognize her own weaknesses that MUST be strengthened to take on the task at hand.”
For some time, there has been a talk that love does not require your partner to change, but rather, that they should be able to accept others as they are. People think that that’s the best way to solve issues, all for the sake of the relationship. But let’s be honest, this almost never happens. It takes a strong capacity of reflection and retrospection to even begin to understand the process, let alone to actually carry it out.
Well, it seems that Jada had a lot of time to think about this topic because she came up with a very good conclusion: “We can’t say we love our man and then come in between him and his children. THAT’S selfishness...NOT love. WOMAN UP... I’ve been there...I know. My blended family turned me into a giantess.”
People often say that “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” Jada corroborated it, but she didn’t want to keep that lesson to herself, so she shared it with her followers on social media and ended up teaching everyone something valuable. This is how she concluded her post: “My blended family made me a giant... Taught me so much about love, commitment, and it has been the biggest ego death to date. It’s time you let your blended family make you the giant you truly are.”
How do you think children can be affected by the separation of their parents and the start of a new family?