15 Employees Who Got Burned by Their Own Actions

Marriage often reveals a person’s true values when unexpected situations arise. What should be moments of unity can sometimes turn into painful tests of loyalty and respect. Many partners discover where they truly stand only when faced with a choice between family and outside commitments. Recently, Bright Side received a heartfelt letter from a woman who faced exactly this kind of painful decision from her husband.
Hi Bright Side,
My husband and I have been married for three years, and we were expecting our first baby in early August. The delivery date had already been scheduled, but an old college friend of ours happened to be getting married that same day.
Naturally, I assumed my husband would stay by my side in the hospital and miss the wedding. But he smirked and said, “It’s not like the baby is coming out of me. You’ll manage alone.”
He insisted that he wanted to enjoy the wedding, socialize, and dance and promised he’d come to the hospital as soon as the party was over.
I didn’t argue. I simply smiled and kept quiet.
But without telling anyone except my mom, I quietly changed hospitals a few days before my due date. On the big day, while my husband happily got ready for the wedding, completely unaware, I took a taxi, and went to this new hospital.
My mom stayed with me, and the birth went smoothly. That evening, my husband began calling and sending frantic messages when the hospital refused to give him information.
When I finally answered his call, he froze in shock when I revealed that I wouldn’t be coming home with the baby. I needed time away, and he would only see our daughter when I was ready.
Now he says I’m being heartless and a “drama queen”. He blames me for punishing him unfairly for skipping her birth.
Am I going too far? I just can’t forgive him for choosing a wedding over his family.
Lynette
Thank you, Lynette, for trusting us with such a vulnerable story. No, you are absolutely not overreacting — anyone in your place would feel deeply hurt. You do deserve space to process what happened, and you’re right to set boundaries.
Here are some different ways you could handle this situation moving forward.
Don’t let him sweep this under the rug with “you’re a drama queen.” Spell it out: while he was clinking glasses and dancing, you were bringing his child into the world alone.
He needs to sit in the discomfort of that truth. Saying it out loud forces him to face the kind of father and husband he actually was at that moment.
Sometimes words don’t land — but images do. When he says you’re “punishing” him, hand him the photos: your hand gripping your mom’s, your first moment holding your daughter, the tiny hospital bracelet on her wrist.
Let him see the scenes he traded for a party. It’s not cruelty; it’s a mirror he can’t look away from.
If he wants back in, words aren’t enough. Make him show you that family comes first. That could mean skipping something he desperately wants to attend, or cutting short a night out to be home with you and the baby.
Until he proves with actions — not apologies — that he’s willing to put you both first, nothing changes.
This isn’t just about missing a wedding versus a birth, it’s about priorities. His first instinct was to mock you, then blame you. That matters. If every time you look at him, you remember the empty chair next to your hospital bed, then maybe this marriage can’t be salvaged.
Start quietly preparing for that possibility — custody, finances, co-parenting — so if he never truly changes, you and your daughter are still safe.
Sometimes a single choice can lead to consequences no one sees coming. This is exactly what happened to Steve, who decided not to give up his business class seat to a pregnant passenger — and what followed left everyone stunned.