My Sister Refuses to Babysit My Kids Despite Our Initial Agreement, and Our Family Is on Her Side

Honestly she is getting a good deal for room and broad she gets to stay nearly all year long and for less than the school would cost plus a little childcare. Maybe mom could take a few less date nights but that is the most I think she should give up. If the niece wants to whine to her family every time she can't get her way she needs to grow up

Anna needs to go back to stay with mom. You gave big sister some horrible advice. She owes her no apology. And let Mom be petty. See if she misses the grandkids.Big sister needs to see her family for the hypocrites they are.

Anna would be better off with mom Rebecca needs a hard dose of reality. Her sister is NOT a free nanny nor is it her responsibility to pay a babysitter for Rebecca's children.

Raise her rent $100 a month. That should be enough to pay a babysitter for a couple of nights when you and hubby want to go out.

This story is too one sided to really weigh in. There are a lot of factors to consider. The ages of the children, what household chores, and childcare responsibilities entailed in this agreement. Did the younger sister go along for two years silently dealing with an unfair deal or did changes in her life make her want to change the established agreement? This article doesn't really answer these questions, however, Rebecca and Anna can answer them. I think ending this agreement will likely be healthy for your sisterly relationship. When cooler heads can prevail, you should talk to each other.

The arrangement was entirely one sided. The older sister is talking terrible advantage of the younger sister. She's supposed to go to school, study, clean house, take care of kids, also work a job AND pay most of her income to the older sister. Just how is she supposed to get good grades, pay for her transportation, room and board and have any money left, let alone socialize?

It honestly feels like this article was written by either AI or someone who didn't really read the letter.

I'd suggest you both sit down n rework the contract considering the change in Anna's life. I get OP wanting a date night but its unfair to not allow Anna the same n potentially ruin a serious n longterm relationship. You said everyother Saturday OP has their date night? Well why not work it so for ex. Saturday A is OPs n Saturday B is Anna n back n forth? Contracts need amending sometimes n this seems the time to do it.

Never ever agree to provide free childcare as part of any arrangement.

Paying roommates usually share household care chores. But a college student paying 500 a month plus childcare is not reasonable. Student deserves her Saturday nights at least twice a month. And no she shouldn't have to pay the babysitter

If this contract was not with your Sister everyone would be on your side. An agreement was made now Anna wants to alter her contract, that's not how business or the world works. Anna signed as an adult and defaulted as a baby sister. Your Mom is wrong to step into the disagreement, she needs to step up and help your sister as she broke her contract with you.

The whole thing is messed up. Why is she even charging her sister rent? It doesn't make sense. She's only 20 and is still going to school. She gets enough pressure.

Let her leave and tell your parents to F-off. The parents are on her side because they don't want to pay the extra amount for your sister's room and board. That's why they want you to do it for free! You both signed the agreement in good faith and she wants to break it. I'll bet you could find another student at her school that would do it for $800/month. Once you do, your sister will beg you to have her back but both she and your obviously biased parents will have learned a lesson when you say no, because you've signed an agreement with another person who will keep their word.

My personal opinion is that if the agreement was to assist with childcare as part of her rent than she should have to pay a total of 800$ instead of the 500$ in place of her no longer babysitting due to you depending on her assistance. I feel that you should have her put in a 2wk to 30 day notice to allow you to accommodate hers and your families needs. This will allow both of you the time to find a sitter for your children and her to either find a different place to live or save a little money to pay you the difference for not babysitting. Or if you wanted to go the legal route you did put the babysitting in writing as well as rent amount, you could take it to court.
I feel that talking with your sister is the better option, however everyone has their own ways of dealing with things. I wish your family the best, and many 🙌

Look like to me everything was alright with Anna till she got a boyfriend so to say the problem is the boyfriend Anna was being a grown up tell she couldn't have her way then she started acting childish and her mother showed who the favorite child is in that family smh

Also I would gladly move in ??? You said 500 a month right 🤣 your sister is getting a good deal

Having a young adult sibling in the house with the other sibling's spouse and children is TOUGH. If the sister is asking for bill money, I'm sure it's because they need it and the sister (or someone else) can swing it. I understand there is a contract in place, but it was signed (2) years ago. Situations have definitely changed. The younger sister definitely should have communicated better to see if they could renegotiate the contract. Bottomline, I think the contract needs to be altered and a compromise had to where they go on day dates so that younger sister can tend to her blossoming romance because I'm sure it's not easy balancing school, job, babysitting, and a new relationship.