Parenting tech-obsessed teens comes with its own set of hurdles, especially now when social media and the internet are such a big part of their lives. One mom, feeling overwhelmed by her son's constant phone use and his behavior, reached her breaking point and took his phone away. She reached out to us, seeking guidance on how to handle the situation.
You waited until he was asleep? Are you afraid of confrontation with your child? If you start acting like your the parent that makes the rules and enforces them he will have to listen but tip toeing around him will cause him to do as he pleases knowing it will bother you. Like leaving the house for the night without permission. You should have brought him home and punished for that. He's walking all over you and you're allowing him to.
Yeah i had the same. Kids now a day dont understand the impact of video games on their life. Try to have a serious conversation with him. You can use "if we have a serious discussion you can have your phone back". It worked for me. But all kids are different so i don't promise it will work. If it work, try to explain him the impact of medias, electronics amd why he should not run away like that, the stress it made you feel etc before giving him his phone. Good luck. Young teens can be though sometimes.
He's 12 yrs old? Living in your house? Where are the boundaries? Not cool. This kid already heading down the wrong road.
We appreciate you reaching out and sharing your story with us. To help you navigate this situation, we’ve put together a few practical tips. These suggestions aim to foster healthy habits and encourage better communication between you and your child. Hopefully, they’ll make things a little easier for you moving forward!
It’s important to rebuild trust after a tense moment like this. Let him know that while you want to set limits, you also trust him to make good decisions and want to work as a team to find solutions. Acknowledge that neither of you handled the situation perfectly and commit to improving together.
When he sees that you’re willing to meet him halfway, he’ll be more likely to reciprocate and approach future conflicts with a better attitude.
Instead of completely taking away his devices, establish clear and fair boundaries for when and how he can use them. Create a schedule together so he feels involved in the process, like setting specific times for meals, family activities, and homework.
Emphasize that you’re not banning screens but teaching him how to balance his time in a healthy way. Having clear boundaries can reduce power struggles and help him understand your expectations without feeling like his freedom is being taken away.
If you want him to spend more time with the family, make family activities something he looks forward to. Plan things you know he’ll enjoy, like a movie night with his favorite snacks, cooking a meal together, or going out for an activity he’s excited about.
Let him help choose what you do—it shows him you value his preferences. When family time feels enjoyable and not like a chore, he’ll be more willing to participate, and it can help rebuild your connection.
Kids often mimic what they see, so take this opportunity to model balanced tech habits yourself. Show him that you put your phone down during meals or when having a conversation. This creates a shared goal rather than making it feel like he’s the only one being monitored.
If you can make it a team effort, he might feel less singled out and more willing to reflect on his own habits. Leading by example can subtly influence him to strike a better balance with his devices.
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Why is it all of these pre-teens and middle aged teenagers have cell phones in the first place ! Where are these young kids at this age when they're not around responsible adults ? If you don't give them one in the first place, you won't have this problem. When they start driving that's the time for them to responsibly have a cell phone. People are creating this problem, then run scared when it becomes one.
