When that inheritance is your only asset you need to protect it. You could live many more years and social security is not enough to live on alone. Write your own will and consider putting the house and any monies into a trust; simplifies probate. Your son is acting like an entitled brat. I would strongly consider leaving your estate to charities and let him know that in case you are concerned he might harm you to get "his" inheritance early. Your late husband left you his estate. He can't control it from his grave. Protect yourself. Have a good financial adviser and attorney help you get things formalized ASAP.
My Son Sued Me Over His Inheritance—And the Judge’s Ruling Left Us Both in Tears

Family conflicts over money can tear people apart, but this story takes it to another level. A grieving mother thought she was protecting her late husband’s wishes — until her own son dragged her to court over his inheritance. What the judge said in the end left them both in tears.
The story of our reader.


“Hi Bright Side team,
I never thought my own child would take me to court. My husband passed away last year, and his will left everything to me, with the plan that our son (23M) would inherit after I was gone. I wanted to keep the house and savings secure — it’s all I have.
But my son insisted the money was ‘already his.’ When I told him he’d have to wait, he said I was stealing from him. Next thing I knew, I was served papers. My son was suing me for his inheritance.
The courtroom was the hardest place I’ve ever been. I looked at my boy — the same kid I once tucked in at night — now treating me like the enemy. He argued I didn’t ‘need’ the money and that he deserved it now.
When the judge spoke, the room went silent. He said the will was clear: the inheritance wasn’t my son’s until after my death. But then he looked at both of us and said something that broke me:
‘You haven’t just lost a case. You’re losing each other.’
My son lowered his head and started crying. And so did I.”
Thank you for sharing your story with us and bringing up this sensitive topic!
3 Red Flags Your Adult Child Might Be Entitled (and How to Handle It).


Parenting never really stops. But what happens when love and support start to feel one-sided? Many parents quietly admit they feel more like a bank account, chauffeur, or problem-solver than a mom or dad. If that sounds familiar, it may not just be tough love — it could be a sign of entitlement.
Here are three red flags to watch for, plus gentle ways to bring the balance back.
🚩 1. Help Is Expected, Not Appreciated
Imagine this: your 26-year-old asks for help paying a bill... again. Instead of gratitude, you get a shrug or a guilt trip: “Well, it’s your job. I didn’t ask to be born.” That’s a hard pill to swallow. Support should feel like kindness, not an obligation.
💡 Try this: Set a new rule — help only comes with respect. Say: “I’m glad to support you, but gratitude matters to me.”
🚩 2. They Hand You Their Problems
Quitting a job without a plan, overspending, or running back home whenever life gets messy — some adult kids expect parents to swoop in like superheroes. But constantly bailing them out only teaches them one thing: that consequences don’t apply.
💡 Try this: Instead of rushing in, ask: “What’s your plan?” Standing back doesn’t mean you’ve stopped caring — it means you believe they can stand on their own.
🚩 3. Boundaries = Guilt Trips
Say no, and suddenly you’re the villain. Whether it’s the car, money, or yet another favor, entitled behavior often comes with emotional pushback: “Wow, I guess you don’t really care about me.”
💡 Try this: Stay calm and steady. Respond with: “I love you, and I also have the right to say no.” Boundaries are an act of respect — for both of you.
It’s not selfish to want appreciation, respect, and balance with your grown child. In fact, showing them healthy boundaries is one of the last — and most powerful — lessons of parenthood. Love doesn’t mean rescuing forever. Sometimes, love means stepping back and letting them rise.
Comments
You owe your kids love and understanding for a life time.
You owe them care and education (and to force it on them) till 21 or finished.
Once they can get a job you do not owe them anything material more.
You may give them a low interest loan.
You may loan them your extra car when theirs break down or in for a service.
You may share your lawnmower or ladder or drill if they return it promptly and chips in with maintenance.
My siblings and I insisted that my parents do not leave anything to us. Compromised in that trust is set up to give loans for education and business opportunities.
As a billionaire said I give my children enough so they can do anything but not enough so they can do nothing.
SKIing. Spending your kids inheritance should be the norm for those who carefully built up their nest egg.

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