7 Types of Toxic Partners That Can Ruin Your Life

5 years ago

When you start dating, you believe that your partner is perfect, but when this romantic period ends, you see their true nature that you may not be able to handle. As a rule, these people don’t like their complicated character either, but they can’t do anything about it.

Bright Side is going to tell you about the most toxic types of partners and their qualities. If you’ve noticed any of these features in your partner, it may be time to think about whether you’re with the right person or not.

7. Addicts

A relationship with a person suffering from addiction is complicated and exhausting. A person gets preoccupied with their addiction and it starts ruining their relatives’ lives. It’s not only about drugs, alcohol, and gambling. People can be addicted to anything: food, work, shopping, sports, and even love.

How can you know?

An addict isn’t usually aware of their problem and tries to deny it. But as soon as they can’t reach their object of affection, they become aggressive or distressed. Pay attention to your partner’s actions and speech. What do they talk about the most? What makes them feel sad? What does their self-esteem depend on? Their reaction to a life without their addiction will tell you everything.

6. Abusers

In real life, people who are prone to physical or psychological violence don’t look like negative movie characters. They often appear polite, nice, and even vulnerable. But as soon as such people feel they have power over others, they show their destructive nature. There’s only one way out: you have to run away!

How can you know?

Ask your partner about their past relationships. If they say no good words about their ex-partners, you probably are dating an abuser. Such people are too jealous, they always control their partners, they impose their help, and never admit when they’re wrong.

5. Whiners

We all need a shoulder to cry on from time to time. But there are “professional” whiners who turn their dissatisfaction into a lifestyle. They can’t ever be happy and always try to find a “victim” to complain about their poor life. If you date a true whiner, sooner or later, you’ll start feeling the same.

How can you know?

Ask your partner in a polite way to stop complaining and try to switch to more pleasant topics. If there are no such topics to discuss, a whiner will get back to their “hobby” or disappear from your life.

4. Childish adults

We all have an inner child and that’s great! But in some people, these “inner children” don’t let the adult personality develop. No matter why a childish adult hasn’t managed to grow up yet, their partner will turn into a parent or become a child too.

How can you know?

Childish adults are afraid of all “adult” and “serious” stuff like work, relationships, responsibility, and even fashion (they often look like teenagers). Their relationship with their parents is complicated as well: adult children either can’t live without their parents or always argue with them.

3. Emotionally unavailable

Some people consider natural emotions to be a sign of weakness. They have a need for love but they can’t get or give it. Emotional unavailability may either be a sign of a personal feature or a sign of indifference. It may indicate that your partner isn’t motivated about your relationship. As you probably already know, unrequited love doesn’t make anyone happy.

How can you know?

Their relationships with the opposite sex are always characterized as “it’s complicated”. They don’t do anything to improve your relationships. Their unavailability is in everything: it’s difficult to meet them or reach them via phone, and to receive a text from them, you’ll have to wait hours.

2. Narcissists

It’s quite obvious that such people can’t get along well with their partners. Of course, we have to respect and love ourselves, but narcissism and egocentrism ruin everything.

How can you know?

It’s really easy to identify a narcissist — you only have to count how many times they say, “I...”. If a person isn’t interested in anything but themselves, you’ll only serve as their shadow and that’s it.

1. Total perfectionists

Many people consider perfectionism to be an advantage. Our urge to be better really helps us to achieve results at work, sports, and in other spheres of life. But when it comes to relationships, there are no true perfections and perfectionists aren’t interested in such results.

How can you know?

Perfectionists often criticize their partners and make them change. Their favorite phrase is, “Everything’s fine but...” or “This place is fine but let’s go to a restaurant next time,” or “You look fine but I think you need to go to the gym,” or “This t-shirt is fine but you’d better wear a blazer.” Perfectionists are only able to love the perfect image that they create.

Have you ever met any of these types of people? Tell us about your experience in the comments below.

Illustrated by Elena Sorokina and Alena Tsarkova for Bright Side


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