those aren't friends, they are ungrateful, spoiled, selfish brats.
My Friends Said My Vegan Birthday Was “My Choice” and Refused to Pay — So I Canceled
Birthdays are supposed to be about joy, laughter, and the people who matter most. But for one of our readers, a simple plan for a cozy celebration turned into a harsh wake-up call about who her real friends were. What started as a thoughtful choice of venue quickly spiraled into hurtful comments, unexpected demands — and a decision she never thought she’d make.
Her letter


“Hi Bright Side!
For my 33rd, I booked a cute vegan bakery for 12 friends. Nothing crazy — just coffee, cake, and a chill vibe. I checked the menu twice so no one felt left out. But then the group chat blew up. ‘Why do we all have to eat vegan?’ ‘It’s your choice, don’t make it ours.’ Someone even said, ‘If we’re adjusting for you, maybe YOU should cover the bill.’ I sat there staring at my phone, realizing my ‘friends’ valued steak over my birthday.
So I canceled. Quietly.
On my birthday, I invited only the two people who hadn’t mocked me. But here’s the twist — I booked the fanciest steakhouse in town. They devoured massive ribeyes, I had the vegan tasting menu, and we laughed like crazy. Then I posted photos of us clinking glasses under chandeliers. The complainers saw it all.”
Thank you for your honest story!
If Birthday Dinners Ruining Friendships, Here’s a Smarter Approach.


Birthday dinners sound simple in theory — invite friends, pick a spot, celebrate. But in reality? They can turn into full-blown stress tests. Mixing different friend groups, balancing dietary quirks, and choosing a place that feels festive and affordable is already tricky. And then comes the real drama: the bill.
Do you split it evenly? Should everyone chip in for the guest of honor? Or does the birthday person end up paying for their own party? With no universal rule, things get tense fast. Add a few cocktails, uneven orders, or someone who “forgot their card,” and the night can sour in seconds.
The truth is, a birthday dinner out isn’t all that different from hosting at home — except restaurants come with unspoken expectations that can spark money drama before the cake even arrives.


Let’s be real: there’s no official rulebook for birthday dinners. But here’s the truth—if you’re the one planning it, you’ve gotta be upfront. Tell your friends what they’re in for, money-wise, before the group chat explodes.
- Or, better idea? Skip the chaos entirely:
- Grab drinks at a bar.
- Throw a potluck and let everyone flex their cooking skills.
Treat yourself to a solo celebration (no Venmo requests required).
Because honestly, birthdays should feel fun—not like an accounting exam. If your dream is a big sparkly dinner, live it up. But if peace, no bill-splitting drama, and a quiet night out sound like bliss, that counts as celebrating too.
Maybe it’s time for the anti—birthday dinner. Less stress, more actual joy.
Because the best birthday is the one that actually feels like yours.
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