Blended families often navigate unique challenges, especially when family dynamics shift with the arrival of a new baby. For Glenda, an expectant mother, the situation has become particularly complex. She believes it’s time for her 25-year-old stepdaughter to move out to make space for the baby. This decision, however, has sparked significant family drama, unfolding in ways Glenda never anticipated. She opened up to us to share her story.
If the house was his before you married, and should he pass away, expect the daughter to throw you out, since you saw fit to throw her out! If his first wife died, and he sells the house, he might have to give the daughter her mothers share! With rent as high as they are, many 25 year olds are still home with their parents! A baby doesn't take up that much space!
THAT IS NOT THE POINT. THIS WOMAN APPARENTLY TRIED TO TALK TO HER HUSBAND, ABOUT THE LACK OF SPACE, AND HE CHOSE TO IGNORE THAT. HE IS USING JOINT SAVINGS TO SUPPORT HIS DAUGHTER. HIS DAUGHTER HAS HER DADDY WRAPPED AROUND HER FINGER. IT IS GOING TO COST HIM MUCH MORE TO SUPPORT HIS SOON TO BE EX WIFE, AND NEW BABY, FOR 18 MORE YEARS, IF HE IS CONTINUING TO FINANCIALLY SUPPORT HIS 25 YEAR OLD. IF HIS DAUGHTER IS WORKING THERE'S NO REASON THAT SHE CANT CONTRIBUTE TO A BIGGER PLACE FOR ALL OF THEM, IF SHE WANTS TO KEEP LIVING WITH DADDY. STEPMOM SHOULD HAVE MADE IT CLEAR TO HER HUSBAND AND STEPDAUGHTER WHAT NEEDED TO BE DONE, AND THEY MIGHT HAVE BEEN ABLE TO COME TO SOME AGREEMENT, BUT SHE IS NOT WRONG ABOUT THIS. WHAT WILL DADDY DO, WHEN HIS DAUGHTER DOES DECIDE TO MOVE OUT? WHO WILL TAKE CARE OF HIM THEN?
It’s his daughter and you don’t throw children out even if there adults.
It’s hard living on your own.
YOU DON'T KEEP SUPPORTING AN ADULT THAT IS CAPABLE OF TAKING CARE OF THEMSELVES. ESPECIALLY WITH A NEW CHILD (MINOR) ON THE WAY. DAUGHTER IS DOING NOTHING TO HELP THIS SITUATION. DADDY DOESN'T HAVE TO ABANDON HER, BUT HE HAS A RESPONSIBILITY TO HIS NEW CHILD AND WIFE, NOW.
There is no justification to kick out his daughter maybe she is still living there to pay off any student loans she may have or maybe she is saving up for her own and you stated its your baby but the baby is his aswell and one day he will realise what a huge red flag you are and kick you to the curb
THEN HE SHOULD NOT BE HAVING ANOTHER KID. HE HAS HAD 7 MONTHS TO RECTIFY AND ADAPT TO THE REALITY OF THAT. HIS DAUGHTER HAS NOT DONE ANYTHING TO HELP FIGURE IT OUT EITHER. THE DAUGHTER IS THE RED FLAG. I PERSONALLY HOPE THAT THIS WOMAN TAKES HIM FOR EVERYTHING HE HAS. PLUS 18 YEARS OF ALIMONY AND CHILD SUPPORT FOR HIS "OTHER" CHILD. THEN MAYBE WHEN HIS DAUGHTER HAS TO SUPPORT HIM, HE WILL FIGURE IT OUT.
It is wrong to kick her out. First of all it is not your house. Your mariage doesen”t give you the right to do this .... The girl does have a job ? It is a student ? it is wrong to take actions in a house that is not yours.
Plus = After your baby birth, you can use her like a babysitter. Make the girl a friend, not enemy.
Excuse me, but it IS her house. Married couples own things together. She and her husband make joint decisions. She does have a point, but she went about it the wrong way. But don't say it's not her house.
Different states and different laws say differently to this.
WELL GOD FORBID THAT COMMON SENS HAS ANYTHING TO DO WITH IT. HIS 25 YEAR OLD IS A LEECH, PERIOD. HE SHOULD NOT BE KNOCKING HIS WIFE UP IF HE ISN'T GOING TO DO EVERYHING HE CAN FOR "HIS NEW CHILD". HE MAY BE A MALE BUT HIS CERTAINLY NO MAN.
Yours is very much justified ❣️
I hope your husband comes to his senses and kicks you to the curb and gets full custody of his new baby. You knew what you were signing up for when you got involved with this man, you knew he had baggage. No normal person empathizes with you.
I do, and I consider myself very normal. No. She didn't know what she was signing up for, especially when this daughter has been an adult for 8 years! That's not the same as knowing someone has baggage.
Glenda. You are so jealous to your stepdaughter. She is your husband daughter and you should treat her like she's yours too. Her dad house is her house too. You should accept it .. now that she rent for apartment using her dad money that's because of you! Because you are paranoid and crazy evil stepmom
What makes you think Jealousy is involved? She makes a good point, especially when most 25 year olds ARE independent. She handled things horribly, though, making the adult daughter feel unloved and rejected.
You are so very right! This is the Answer to that terrible, selfish, future divorce woman who, should either learn and change for her next, because already done to her X. That is a destroying, undoing, major event that will continue to do damage as it already has done.
You don't stop being a patent just cause your kid turns into an adult this just sounds like your jealous and want it all about you, you, you he should spend the money on me and my baby no not at all he should spend money on his kid's and only his kids and wanting her room for as you put it not our baby but your baby your throwing out red flags left and right you need to grow up at least he wants to be apart of their life after they've "grown up" its simple you need to take a good look at yourself seek help and he needs to drop you and just think about himself and the kids.
Use punctuation! Can't understand you!
ask for a divorce
Hi Glenda! Thank you for opening up and sharing your story. We’ve compiled some advice that might help you in the future.
Instead of reacting out of anger, sit down with your husband to discuss the situation rationally. Highlight the impact of his decision on your shared finances and the future of your growing family.
Use specific points, such as how the savings were meant for a bigger house to accommodate the baby and how renting an apartment for his daughter undermines those goals.
Emphasize your need for partnership in financial decisions, especially as you’re about to welcome a child together. Make it clear that your concern isn’t about pushing his daughter away but about setting fair priorities.
Propose a middle-ground solution where your stepdaughter is given a set timeline to transition to independence without relying on your shared savings. For example, suggest that she can stay with a relative or find temporary shared accommodation while she builds her financial stability.
This way, she’s not forced out entirely, but your household finances aren’t strained. You could also propose helping her find a job or budgeting assistance if that’s part of her challenge.
If your husband insists on supporting his daughter, insist on transparency about the family finances. Set clear limits on what portion of the savings (if any) can be allocated to her apartment or other expenses. For instance, if he’s determined to help, suggest using a fraction of his personal income, not the shared savings.
This would protect your baby’s needs and ensure that the larger financial goals, like a bigger home, aren’t derailed.
If your husband is unwilling to compromise, focus on securing your own and your baby’s future. Consider seeking outside support, whether from a counselor to mediate this conflict or family members who might help you assert your needs.
Make sure you’re informed about your financial rights in case the situation escalates. This isn’t about threatening your relationship but about ensuring you and your baby have a stable foundation, even if your husband’s priorities differ.
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when you marry someone with kids, you get a package deal.
Good job dad 👏🏻👏🏻 his daughter is 25 and should still be living in the house in her room and leave when shes financially ready to leave. Its hard to live on your own now days and it sounds like dad understands that. You sound like a step monster that is either jealous of her or dont know how blended families blend in a healthy way. He needs to leave you clearly.
