Family conflicts can be especially painful when they unfold during life’s biggest milestones. Weddings, meant to be a celebration of love and unity, can sometimes bring out long-standing tensions instead. When emotions run high, a single moment can spark a much deeper issue. What was supposed to be a joyful day took an unexpected turn, leaving relationships strained and difficult choices ahead.
Good on the son. Something tells me MIL is a monster in law he said he "can't do this anymore" meaning mom is always causing trouble. Fix it by being seen and not heard you sound like a problem. You knew exactly what you were doing when you wore that dress.
You really want to fix this!?? YOU need to apologize!! Why would you wear WHITE to ANYONES wedding but especially you son?? You and only YOU can fix this as YOU are definitely TA. If you were my future MIL I'd probably RUN!!
I think you are in the right age to know what is right but still do things you know will create a problem. Now you chose to start the problem and now acting the victim. If you write it here to fix the problem then simple as be humble and apologize to her and your son because you ruin everything. If you dont then maybe you intentionally did it and now you write here just to get attention. The DIL should not even bother to marry a man who humiliate her in front of the guest of their own wedding which He said no to her just because his mother has attitude.
I think you should have chosen a different color or a simpler design to be sure you would not upstage the bride. What you wore was beautiful enough to be worn by a bride. I do NOT condone the public behavior of your daughter-in-law, but I understand why she was upset.
If the picture is the dress I would have raised my eyebrow too if I was the bride. White and lace.. But I would not have made a scene and let it ruin the day.
You need to apologize to your sons partner and tell her it never dawned on you that it could cause such a problem and then say please forgive me and lets start afresh then take them both out to dinner on you as a last part of your apology! If you do not do this it will just get worse you need to show maturity and honest regret!
Grooms mother was wrong for wearing a elegant white dress to her sons wedding. You don't wear white 🙄
It is proper social etiquette you don't wear white to a wedding unless the bride says it is fine. I would have told her to leave
Thank you, Linda, for trusting us and sharing your story. We understand that your choice of dress may have sparked tension between you and your daughter-in-law. Our hope is that the advice we’ve gathered will help you mend your relationship while ensuring your boundaries remain respected.
Before making any decisions, take a step back and reflect on what happened. Emotions were high, and everyone likely acted out of stress and frustration. Ask yourself if wearing white was an innocent mistake or if it unintentionally added fuel to an already tense relationship. If you truly didn’t mean to cause harm, focus on how you can express that.
Your son is stuck in the middle, and it’s clear he loves both you and his fiancée. Have a calm, honest conversation with him—without pressure. Let him express his feelings and listen without defensiveness. Reassure him that you love and support him no matter what, and ask how he envisions moving forward.
If your white dress choice hurt your DIL’s feelings, consider apologizing—but only if you feel it’s warranted. However, also address the fact that being yelled at in front of everyone was disrespectful. Express that while you regret any misunderstanding, you also expect to be treated with kindness.
No matter how difficult things feel right now, don’t let this incident drive a wedge between you and your son. He may feel torn, but he still loves you. Continue to support him in his life decisions without making him feel like he has to choose between you and his fiancée.
A mother’s love should be steady, even in difficult times. If you give him space and understanding, he’ll appreciate your presence more in the long run.
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What an absolute load of feel good drivel this idiot mother-in-law was given. You clearly are an idiot or looking for trouble if you wear white to another woman's wedding. Period. End of discussion. You were wrong, the bride had every right to berate your careless or calculated stupidity and owes you absolutely no apology for ruining what was to be the happiest day of their lives. Clearly you have been a thorn in their sides if your son was willing to call off the wedding so quickly. Why would you even think your behavior was remotely appropriate. You'll be lucky if they ever Introduce grandchildren to a horrible person like you
