I Refused to Keep My Stepmom in My Late Dad’s House—I’m Not a Charity

Make her pay you rent and move them both to the basement make it into an apartment for them both

I'm sorry you lost your dad. You said there's a 13 year old but not if related. You also didn't say anything about the relationship you had with your stepmother growing up. Really, it's just me,me,me.. Sounds like, from this post the only reason you don't want to live with them is because you're selfish.

All of y'all are grieving the loss of your dad, not just you. I cannot imagine your step mom's point of view: losing her husband, who I am assuming she loved very deeply. Then also losing a place for her and her 13 year old daughter to live, that she helped provide for. With all of her stuff scattered outside like she was a piece of trash. Imagine if you woke up one day at wherever you were paying rent, and all of your belongings you have paid for over the years were outside in the elements. (Possible heat, moisture, bugs)

It sounds like you have lived with your dad, step mom, and sister for 6 years before you moved out. I have no clue what they did to you or your mother in the past. This can affect your already heightened emotions in the situation which is normal and valid. I understand thinking you as his blood daughter wants the house to yourself. But after getting married, he and his wife are considered 1. Legally she should own the house, and as mentioned, she she does it becomes the children's.

I hope this comment helped. I didn't want to sound too judgemental. I understand you not wanting to pay rent where you were anymore. And step mom should also not have to go pay rent somewhere.

I think you certainly could have gone about this better. Your father obviously loved this woman and I sure she contributed to the house in some way.
Me personally would try very hard to sort this issue before putting a 13 yr old child out of the only home she's ever known. Try looking at it from your fathers side

It depends if you're step mum an homewrecker and was the one who split up your family if not your the a-hole is so then I'm sorry your dad did this to you

Yes. Yes, you are being unreasonable. Cruel, actually. Immoral and selfish, definitely. Cheers.

Actually isn't it a law that the wife is entitled to half the house anyway!! I think its pretty SH$%%y that your ready just to throw them out!! WOW that's rude!!

Well if that’s how your dad wanted it you have no choice sorry.

Hi Harper,

First of all, my condolences for the loss of your father, that grief alone is heavy, and I don’t dismiss it.

That said, your action was immoral. You put your father’s wife and a 13-year-old girl, your stepmother and her daughter, out of their home. Whatever your relationship is or was with them, doing that right after your father's death speaks more about you than them.

And that’s the real issue here, this act reveals that your relationship with your stepmother is clearly broken. Her coming back into the house doesn’t fix that, it only makes things awkward and tense for all three of you living under the same roof now.

There’s a Dutch saying, “Zijn wil is wet”, his will is law. You’re legally and morally obligated to respect your father’s final wishes. That means sharing the house.

So yes, your behavior painted you as the villain, regardless of how justified you think your anger is. The way you handled it, with force and disregard, overshadowed any valid frustrations you may have had.

Time to reflect, not just on what’s fair, but on who you want to be.

Just wait till her dead ?

Paying rent since 18 your parents have been paying bills longer than that. You might have different mom's
Your step mom has been living there since she & your father got married.
Regardless of blood relation you
kicked out your 13 year old sister who has lived in that house for 12 years. She was raised in that home as a baby. Your father saw her as his own. You have lived with them when your father was alive. Are they not your family now that he passed?
You need to learn to be more sympathetic towards others.
He wouldn't want his wife or daughters starving on the streets.

If you want your own place & are struggling financially then rent out your bedroom & move somewhere else.

Yes you are being unreasonable
Like it or not your father has a will be left all of you in his will she does have rights.

Ooooo...so you didn't work on minute to pay one cent on that house but you believe it's all yours.
There's a reason the will was structured that way. Sweat equity. She put 12 years of housekeeping, cooking, and so on plus any income of her own into maintenance, taxes and insurance. You'll be able to retire there if you don't make her mad enough to put off repairs or leave them up to you...and she could expect you to kick in on things like a new roof, major plumbing and any foundation work.
Better start saving up for any future tax liabilities because laws change. Wish I could be there when it lands on ya

U are a spoiled brat that is jet house she lived there for 12 years ur going to REAP WHAT YOU SOW

Have her pay your rent for your apartment or buy you out.

your dad must have known you would do something like that, which is why he did what he did. Why pursue the issue, after all this is how he wanted it to be.