You didn't the right thing. Companies take advantage of loyal employees. Companies need to periodically review salaries to ensure all employees are being paid according to market salaries. That way there are no underpaid ees. If not they will lose talented workers, that have to look for work elsewhere to be paid what they're worth. As a woman in the job market, I was paid thousands less than my male counterparts. I worked for this company for 20 years. I retired and now work a part-time job. I work 20 hours/week and with my retirement, I am comfortable.
I Refuse to Accept Being “Grandfathered In” at $15K Less Than New Hires

Letter for Bright Side:
Hey, Bright Side,
So, I’ve been at my job for 15 years. Same company, same general role, steady promotions early on and then kinda plateaued. I never job-hopped because I bought into the whole “loyalty matters” thing. Yeah, I know.
A few months ago I found out (accidentally, thanks to office gossip) that new hires in my exact role are making about $15k more than me. Same responsibilities. Same expectations. Less experience.
I brought it up to my boss, trying to stay calm and professional. His response?
He literally laughed and said, “That’s just the market now! You’re grandfathered in!” OK... said “got it,” and went back to my desk. Inside, I was absolutely fuming.
Over the next two weeks, I did some math. I pulled salary data, market rates, and realized that over the last decade I’d been underpaid by roughly $180k. Not hypothetical money. Actual, real dollars I could’ve been earning.
So I updated my resume. Sent it out casually. Didn’t even think much would come of it.
I got three offers. All paying current market rates plus sign-on bonuses.
Next day, I submitted my resignation with a polite notice, a spreadsheet showing the underpayment, copies of the offers (with company names redacted, salary numbers very visible), cue absolute panic.
My boss suddenly wanted to “talk.” HR got involved. They tried to counter-offer. Promotions, raises, vague promises of “future growth.” All the things I’d been told weren’t possible literally weeks earlier.

You should have stayed and fought harder. Quitting didn’t teach them anything; it just lost you leverage. You walk away, they keep doing the same to the next loyal worker.
I declined. Gave my notice. Stayed professional.
Now some coworkers are acting like I’m the bad guy for “blindsiding” management and “not giving them a chance to fix it.” A couple friends said I might’ve burned bridges unnecessarily. I dunno. Once someone laughs in your face about your pay, it kind of kills the vibe.
So, was I wrong for quitting instead of accepting the counter-offer or giving them another chance?
Best,
J.

The company burned the bridge. Take care of you and your family
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us! Hopefully at least one of these helps you feel a little more grounded, validated, or confident about the choice you made.
- Never accept a counter-offer from someone who dismissed you first — Real talk: once someone shows you they didn’t value you until you threatened to leave, the dynamic is already poisoned. Even if you stayed, you’d always wonder when the rug would get pulled later. You didn’t reject “more money”, you rejected working for people who needed proof you were valuable.
- Celebrate this like it’s a big deal (because it is) — Seriously. Do something tangible to mark this moment: a nice dinner, a weekend away, something symbolic. You stood up for yourself without blowing up, without begging, without burning the place down. That’s growth. Don’t just move on like it was nothing.
- Update your personal definition of “professional” — Being professional doesn’t mean being silent, agreeable, or loyal to your own detriment. It means being clear, prepared, and self-respecting. What you did, smiling, planning, executing, was actually extremely professional. Cold, even. In a good way.
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Comments
NEVER take the counter offer! It's only an excuse to keep you around until they can get rid of you on their terms, and probably try to undermine you on the way out. And as far as your coworkers are concerned, there's nothing wrong with burning bridges when you know you're never going to cross back over them again. I've said it before, as have many job experts, the only way to advance in today's business environment is to change companies every couple of years. Sadly, the days of long term loyalty are long since passed.
IF, THEY PAY YOU, ALL $180K, UP FRONT, STAY. JUST LONG ENOUGH FOR THE CHECK TO CLEAR. TELL YOUR COWORKERS, THAT MANAGEMENT AND YOU, ARE THE ONLY ONES INVOLVED IN YOUR SALARY NEGOTIATION. THEY ARE JUST AFRAID THAT THEY MIGHT HAVE TO DO SOME OF YOUR WORK. MOVE ON HONEY, THEY NEED YOU, YOU DON'T NEED THEM.
I hope your former boss loses sleep over this. Laughing at an employee’s pay differences is unforgivable old school loyalty shouldn’t be rewarded with disrespect.
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