I Survived My Cheating Husband and Now My Daughter’s Back With an Unexpected Request

When it comes to blended families, finding the right balance can be tricky, and sometimes, even small decisions can cause big waves. One woman shared her story about standing up for her boundaries and how her husband’s reaction left her wondering if she did the right thing.
Dear Bright Side,
My husband has 2 kids from his ex, but when I come back from work, he keeps leaving me alone with them to go out and play sports. “I’m not their mom, I didn’t sign up for this!” I said. He promised to change, but didn’t. So I took control.
Next time the kids came over, I told him in advance: I wouldn’t be home, and I’d arranged for a sitter to stay with the kids. Simple. Clean. Responsible. If he couldn’t be there, and I wasn’t comfortable, then someone qualified should be.
He didn’t say anything... until the morning of. He saw me getting dressed and asked where I was going. I calmly reminded him of our conversation, told him the sitter would arrive in 30 minutes. That’s when he exploded.
He accused me of “not helping him out” and “making things harder” for him. He said I was trying to avoid the responsibility of being part of the family, and that he thought I was selfish for refusing to be alone with his kids.
I told him I thought it was fair to expect him to stay home when the kids are here. I work full-time too. I’m not asking him for the world—just to parent his own kids when they’re under our roof. I didn’t sign up to be the default just because he wants to shoot hoops with his buddies.
He hasn’t really spoken to me since that argument. Things are tense. Cold. Like I stepped out of line for refusing to play a role I never agreed to.
Am I in the wrong for arranging a sitter and sticking to my boundaries? Or should I just suck it up and act like a stepmom, even if I don’t feel like one?
Stay true to yourself — and remember: setting healthy boundaries is a form of love, too.