Family stories can stay with us long after the moments have passed. Some people grow up with support, while others grow up learning to survive on their own. The past can show up again when we think we’ve moved far beyond it. What seems simple on the outside can feel incredibly heavy beneath the surface.
Yeah my parents did the tought love deal. Nancy Reagan tough love tripe ruined a lot of lives. I didnt enough money for groceries and didnt qualify for food stamps or food banks because I had a job just a very low paying job. Back then the cheapest thing to eat was bologna and tuna fish. Can't touch bologna anymore and I rarely eat tuna fish because of it. Tough love was a whack idea a lady who didnt even properly take care of her own kids spreading a stupid idea
I would have hung up while laughing hysterically.
I tell everyone and anyone I know. If you throw out you child and they haven't done something actually horrible
Then you are a waste of life and a terrible parent
And they if they ever do this.. I will do 3 things immediately.
1 I will take your children in
2 I will call child services and the police on you
3 I will disown you
The choice of having a childish permanent. You dont get to just bow out and throw them away because they didnt listen to you or obey your dumb rules
I personally say they have to earn their way back and they should be grateful for even be given that chance. If they expect a warm welcome after how they treated you well that's tough love.
Hi Bright Side,
At 18, pregnant, my parents kicked me out. Ghosted me completely. I survived, raised my son, and became successful.
Then they appeared one morning like nothing ever happened and said, “We’re retired. Can we move in?” I looked at them and said, “You disowned me.” My dad smiled and replied, “It was tough love. Don’t be petty now.” I grinned back, trying to stay calm. “Sure, stay with me.”
But their smiles faded fast when I walked them not into my home, but into the small guesthouse I use only for storage. I told them gently that this was the only space I felt okay offering right now, and that I needed time before making any bigger decisions. Their faces said everything, and suddenly the reunion felt heavier.
Now I’m stuck between protecting the life I built and the guilt that tries to pull me backward. I don’t want revenge, but I also don’t want to reopen a wound I’ve worked years to heal. I need advice on how to move forward without feeling like I’m betraying myself or teaching my son that hurting someone is something we simply tolerate.
I want to act with kindness but also with wisdom, and I don’t know where that balance is. Any guidance would mean the world right now.
Yours,
Talia
Thank you, Talia, for trusting us with something so personal and layered. You’ve carried a lot on your own, and your feelings are valid. We hope the suggestions below help bring clarity, calm, and confidence as you choose what feels right for your heart and your future.
I hope you're charging them rent, don't give them any money, pay any bills, do anything for them. Smile as you tell them you're just returning their own tough love.
Give yourself time to let the shock of their return settle. Emotional memories don’t disappear just because the people who caused them show up again. Give your heart a moment to sort through what feels real today versus what still echoes from the past. You deserve space before making any decisions that impact your peace.
Consider what your son has seen you overcome. Your decisions now are part of the story he learns about boundaries, kindness, and self-respect. Showing compassion doesn’t mean giving up your peace. Showing strength doesn’t mean shutting people out completely.
I wouldn't let them stay in the guesthouse. They abandoned you at a vulnerable time. Protect yourself first. Tough love? More like self preservation.
Don’t rush yourself into forgiveness that doesn’t feel genuine. Healing has its own rhythm, and forcing it only creates pressure where softness is needed. Let forgiveness be something that grows naturally if it chooses to come. You’re allowed to honor your own timing.
Let your next steps be guided by who you want to become, not who they expect you to be. You’ve already broken a cycle by building a life full of safety and love for your son. Whatever you choose now, choose it with the calm confidence you earned through years of surviving and rising. Your story is still yours to shape.
And if you need a reminder that goodness still exists in simple, everyday moments, our next article might lift your heart. In these stories, tiny acts of kindness changed someone’s day in unexpected and beautiful ways. These moments show how even the smallest gesture can ripple farther than we think.
Don't let them move in. Turn and give them back their own message. Tough love. If they can't make it on their retirement point them to the employment office. You owe them nothing. My parents pulled the tough love on me but pampered my brother so you owe them nothing. They made their bed. Dont let them guilt you into anything. Remind them that when you needed them they kicked you out. You are returning the favor. You have to protect yourself and more importantly your son. Because they will tell him lies. That's what mine did. Never helped me and then told my brother lies like I wouldnt accept their help or I refused the money they offered. They are not nice people. Put your son and you first.
