This is not to sound harsh, but I want to ensure I've read everything correctly. Your daughter is 28, and you are 68, which means you waited until 40 years of age to give her life, rather than let that ship sail and be child-free. You are now over retirement age, while she is still a young woman in her 20s with a child, and you feel she is being selfish? I'm not here to judge, but having a child at 40 with no other family connections or siblings for her insight is very selfish. You are her mother, and that comes with attachments to the life you created, as well as your grandchild. You had to have known that by the time she had a kid or chose to have one, you would either be deceased or too old to help in any way. 68 is old. You want to retire at a time when the world is collapsing and falling inward. Life happens, I get it. My daughter will be 28 this year, but I (not of my planning) had her at 16. Which means I'm in my early to mid-40s. She has a son who will be 3 this year. Some ships, when they've been in the water for a while, need to dock and not take any more passengers out to sea. I believe that you are upset because you made the choice at 40 (old enough to know better) to have a kid, not thinking about creating a family and what would happen when she created her own family. The problem is not the baby daddy not in sight, it's that you are leaving the child you had alone with a child, at a time when most families step in with support and help. The baby daddy didn't have her; you did, and at 40. You weren't some mindless teen who didn't know what was going on, or in your 20s, just living. You were a whole past middle-aged woman. At the end of the day, the choice is yours.
