I Refused to Babysit My Grandson for Free

A random daycare accepted a child with just a phone number. Call BS on this whole story. Police & CPS would have been called.

This child has 2 parents. Where is YOUR SON? I would be afraid she would take him to work and leave him in the car all day or at home alone This child is in an unstable or dangerous situation .

Everyone failed in handling this situation. DIL needs to talk to MIL & ASK if she could help with childcare. MIL needs to consider the request & figure out what she’s able/willing to offer. Saying ‘I’m not a free daycare’ is rude & sounds like it’s all about money. Grandma should be willing to help her grandson - that’s what it’s all about. Giving him a loving, safe space to be cared for. DIL used her child by putting him in daycare & causing him unnecessary anxiety. Both are acting in selfish, spiteful ways. Adults involved are supposed to be looking out for the child & what’s best for HIM!! Grow up, ladies!

First off - what daycare allows a small child to make a phone call? And why did they allow him to be dropped off without both parents contact numbers?
I totally get that you don't want to be taken advantage of and you are right to feel this way. The DIL seems very entitled. What does your son think about all this?
Sorry but this story doesn't seem very realistic to me.

Why is it alright for the DIL to basically demand free daycare from her MIL? Are you kidding me? It's not Amanda's responsibility to provide daycare EVERY day for her grandchild.

Her DIL is selfish and very obviously manipulative. The fact that all of these commenters feel it's okay for the DIL to use her MIL like this is frankly shocking.

If the DIL was asking for occasional help I'm sure Amanda would have been pleased to help.
Grandparents are people with lives too...not free labour.

Ask yourselves why it's okay to vilify Amanda. She raised her children.

The DIL is wrong. You can't expect ANYONE to provide free labour for a full-time job. Grandchild or not.

Amanda, hold your ground.

Long Hours, is there something other than work that is causing the DIL to treat her child like an object to be dumped of on others.

plenty of grandparents babysit for free and that has been a standard practice in society until fairly recently. if you ask me this is indicitive of selfish behavior and is one reason among a laundry list that make child birth rates go down. if you cant even rely on your family to help you, what is even the point of having a family ? previous generations were lucky bc their parents were eager to babysit any new children. this society is not conducive to form a family in if every single thing has to become a financial transaction, even among your family. i would ice the MIL out honestly. especially since it sounds like she cares more about money than her grandchild.

What about sharing time with the dil's mother? Why should only the mil be the responsible additional parent in this situation? Besides the dil could have gradually introduced her child to a daycare situation. She did both the grandson and the grandma wrong by just dropping him off and taking off.

I don't know how the human societies of all over world work. However in our society there is a saying it takes a village to raise a child. we see raising a child as a whole family's duty. This duty we generally don't measure with money. We were raised and taught by our grand parents while our parents were busy earning or doing household work. That's how tradition flows from one generation to next generation.
If a child doesn't get enough love and affection from theirs parents grandparents and siblings, it not only affects his or her parents only but also his family and the community got affected. we also takes care of our aged grand parents alongwith our aged parents in our family and never leave them alone when they needed us the most.

Babysitters cost $25 an hour. Tell the DIL, $100 up front, every day you want me to babysit, incidentals to be added when she picks the child up. And if the grandson calls the house again, talk to the childcare lady and tell *her*, call his mother and tell her to get her a** to school and pick your child up. Not my monkeys, not my circus.

Ignore the dil, talk to your son!

Yes, she is heartless to the core. Maybe, just maybe the daughter in-law wants to advance her career to get a better paycheck and not have to rely on her Heartless Mother in law. I feel sorry for the daughter in-law.

I babysit every chance I get. Everyday however would be way to much on my aging body. But if the child is say over 5 and doesn't need to carried around and diaper changes, I would gladly do all I can