I Refused to Give Up My Retirement to Be a Full-Time Nanny—But Paid the Price

I agree 100%, the parents were definitely jerks ... doesn't mean that grandma has to treat her responsibility to her grandkids like a burdon.

what responsibility? she is not responsible for her grandchildren, she that would be the parents, anytime spent with the grandchildren should be a gift not a chore imposed on them.

It's not babysitting, it's grandparenting, and its not that big an ask.

Yez it is!

Maybe for you ... some of us possess competence, energy and the capacity to care for others. I could see how lacking those things would make it more difficult.

No, it's not a big ask, but it was a HUGE demand. Sorry, but I raised five kids into adulthood. I've also been working since I was 13. When I retire in four years, I am the only one who gets to decide what I do with my time. If you think your mother should raise your kids, then give her full guardianship or parent hood so she can get the tax deduction.

You bet wrong. Bet you're used to that. You know what assumptions make you, right?

You are certainly proof of that.

Yeah, you'd need that to be true in order to support your selfish entitled point of view. Well, sorry to disappoint, but you talking to a dedicated husband, father, and grandpa. Try not to choke on the truth, I want you to live long enough to be abandoned by your family.

you're a sad little boy who wasn't hugged enough as a child. I don't just fine with my adult children and grandchildren. I love them, they love me right back, and I'm not rquired to babysit all week. Our love and respect for each other isn't transactional, like it is in your life.

Do you know what transactional means? See, in a real family everyone gives their all with NO expectation of receiving anything in return. You know, like decent people worthy of being called human. You're a sad little girl who wasn't read to enough as a child. I'm glad your family all pretend to love each other ... hope the kids and grandkids never learn that its just an act concealed by convenience.

You're such a troll. You need to grow up.

Your the one that's posted sexism and worship of selfishness. You boomers are all the same, you talk about individuality but practice conformity, you preach love but only show it for yourselves. Your entire culture is trolling. News flash, garbage lady, the people who dedicate themselves to others ARE grown up. It's you geriatric toddlers who need to remember how to be adults ... if, in fact, you ever knew. Judging by the world you left us, you never knew anything. Boomers should either be silent and learn from their betters or hurry into the void so the world can recover from their foolishness.

So why is the DIL expecting free daycare? Your own words will do you in. But hey, grampa, keep talking. This is the 21st century not the 19th. People have lives outside of taking care of their kids kids. If that's what you love doing, cool. But you don't have the right to insult and belittle others because they have other priorities. Remember what you said about assuming?

Daycare centers are not dedicated caregivers, they are disgusting dens of abuse and neglect. Read the news. Any retired grandparent who willingly turns their grandkids over to those monsters deserves a nursing home run by nurse ratchet.

Just keep giving him the rope, he's hanging himself from the golden gate already.

LOL, you know nothing about me. I hope somehow you can deal with whatever is causing pain in your life.

You are an IGNORANT, SELF RIGHTEOUS DICK. If you truly had all this love in your life, you would not be name calling and wishing harm to people that have a different opinion than you do. Maybe this is the ONLY HUMAN CONTACT that you have. Maybe you should go hug one of your imaginary grandkids.

You call me ignorant, but your the one denying the truth of who I am to fit your narrative. I imagine I've had more meaningful irl human interaction today then you have your whole life. Especially since you've now identified yourself as a fairy tale believing God monger. I dont go after people for having different opinions. I go after them for being moral failures, like the narcissists that run your precious church.

Hey Dick, I don't go to church. I don't follow any religion, because, like you, all they do is TELL PEOPLE HOW TO LIVE THEIR LIVES. I am not a God monger, I am a grateful believer in Him. I am not "DENYING THE TRUTH", I AM wondering why, if you have SUCH A FULFILLING LIFE, you would tell ANYONE that you hoped that they "can't wait to die"! Grandchildren are wonderful, they are NOT the be all, do all, end all, of life. IF you enjoy it, good for you, but YOU DON'T PAY ANYONE ELSE'S BILLS, SO YOU DON'T GET A SAY IN WHAT THEY DO. It's a bonus NOT AN OBLIGATION, to watch your grandkids, WHEN YOU CAN. If you had as much "meaningful human interaction" as you say, you wouldn't have time to push your HATE onto others that don't agree with you. I am here a lot because I am very ill, and I don't sleep much. I still have plenty of interaction IN REALL LIFE, WITH REAL PEOPLE. You have no idea what morality is. Do you really think that you are some HARBINGER OF MORAL RECTITUDE? You are mean, bitter and most likely lonely. If you have people who love you FOR you, great. However, you are not an example to be followed by anyone else. I have based every comment I have made ABOUT YOU, ON WHAT YOU HAVE SAID in this article. I have made NO COMMENTS that would allude to who I am, yet that didn't stop you, Mr. MY LIFE IS SO WONDERFUL, from passing your EVERYONE NEEDS TO BE LIKE ME attitude on to the rest of us. You are as bad as Sved, with his Vegans don't slaughter animals, so they are better BS. You have written in some posts, some fairly intelligent points of view, THIS TIME YOUR OWN WORDS ARE YOUR DOWNFALL. If you spend even a moment replying to EVERYONE WHO DISAGREES WITH YOU HERE, you will have NO TIME to be Mr. Awesome grandpa, because NO ONE seems to agree with you, here. It is more likely that YOU IMPOSE YOURSELF onto your family, and have turned that into a reason to act superior. Your life is YOUR LIFE, NOT EVERYONE ELSE'S, so STOP TELLING THEM HOW TO LIVE.

Oh, I know I'm right. I'm glad you realize it, too.

The quality of your comebacks matches the quality of your thought ... that is, none. You gonna come after your moral superiors, make sure their not also your intellectual superiors, it will be less embarrassing for you.

You know nothing about being superior, morally or otherwise. Only God has THAT.