I Secretly Made My Vegan Grandchildren Eat Meat

Family & kids
2 weeks ago

Family disagreements can get tricky, especially when it comes to raising grandkids. Our reader’s daughter, a dedicated vegan, is raising her kids with the same diet. Lately, she noticed they lack energy, have dark circles, and always complain they’re hungry. What our reader did sparked a family firestorm.

Our reader dropped us a message.

It's not eating properly and nothing to do with being vegan. A wholefood plant-based diet provides everything a body needs at all ages. Grandma sounds ignorant about nutrition as possibly the daughter does.

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Thank you for reaching out to us! It's a tricky situation, and we'd like to give you some tips that might help you out.

Talk to your daughter.

Instead of accusing your daughter of being a bad parent, focus on the facts you've observed. Phrases like "Lately, I've noticed the girls seem tired a lot" are better than "You're starving your kids!"

It's ultimately your daughter's decision how to raise her kids. However, you can still advocate for their health. Explain your concerns calmly and see if you can find a middle ground.

Take them to a doctor.

Suggest a visit to their pediatrician. They can assess the girls' health and advise on a well-rounded diet for growing kids, even if it's vegan. Maybe your daughter just needs some help finding healthy vegan options that ensure the girls get the nutrients they need. There are tons of resources online and cookbooks dedicated to well-balanced vegan meals for kids.

See if there are other reasons.

Maybe the girls are tired because they’re not getting enough exercise. Offer to take them to the park, play some games, or do something active together. See if there are other kids in the neighborhood who enjoy being active. Plan a playdate at the park or organize a backyard obstacle course competition.

Find common ground.

Maybe you and your daughter can agree on adding more variety into the girls' diet, even if it remains vegan. There are plenty of delicious and nutritious plant-based options out there. Let your daughter know you're there to support her parenting decisions, but also express your concern for the girls' health. Approach it as a collaborative effort to find the best solution.

One of our readers had the perfect name picked out for her future kid, but her sister ended up using it for her own baby. Now, she’s feeling hurt and frustrated because she always loved that name and wanted to use it herself. It’s a classic case of sibling rivalry popping up in an unexpected way.

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I don't think it's very healthy for young growing kids to be on very strict diets. They need higher consumption of calories. Even if it's not eating meats ,they need to eat more. Your daughter needs to consult a pediatric nutritionist and dietician. You did right feeding the kids because their brains was literally eating itself. We all knew what white spots on the face and dark circles meant and it's not a lack of exercise, it's a nutritional need, aka malnourished. Apologize for the sake of the kids but push for the nutritionist and dietician, they will have the clarity you need your daughter to adhere to

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If your daughter is taking the kids for regular physicals, the doctor should be intervening. If the kids aren't home schooled, the teachers are going to say something to their mother.

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Children can follow a vegan diet and be happy and healthy. I would guess that she isn’t feeding them correctly or enough. Maybe grandma could study up on how to eat a healthy plant based diet and make the children and her daughter some of those meals and dro them off as a peace offering with an apology as she shouldn’t have fed them behind their mother’s back.

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