I’m Divorcing My Wife Because Her Entitled Family Invaded Our House

In life, we get to choose our partners—those we marry, the ones we build our futures with. But when it comes to family? Well, that’s a whole different story. We don’t get to pick our in-laws, and sometimes, the family you marry into can turn into a nightmare. Just ask this 38-year-old guy who turned to Reddit.

After years of putting up with his wife’s entitled, overbearing family, he’s finally calling it quits. It’s a tale of a once-happy marriage, now crumbling under the weight of in-law drama that’s taken over everything. And he’s not holding back in his search for advice.

A man came to Reddit to vent about his absolutely wild family situation.

A man, 38, has recently posted on Reddit and shared his mind-blowing family situation with people, just because he couldn’t keep his emotions inside anymore.

The OP wrote, [Edited by Bright Side], “9 months ago, MIL and FIL began divorce proceedings. He kicked everyone out of the house. It was an emergency, so I agreed to help out. I had to take 4 people in, but they couldn’t think to avoid constantly pissing me off. ”

The man’s story is getting even more dramatic, because his wife doesn’t seem to respect their family boundaries, and he is literally left alone in fighting with the evil in the face of his spouse’s family members.

The OP became involuntarily involved in a huge mess his in-laws created.

The OP goes into details, saying, “I got sick of finding them using our private bathroom (they had complete access to the other full bathroom by the hallway). SIL started taking naps on our bed, which is creepy because a bed is too personal. I came home late, and we had to wake her up and still waited for her to snap out of her groggy state so that she could walk out. It lasted for 3 months, but the problems persisted.”

The OP added, “I (M38) left my wife (Kelly F38) today. 5 years together. 4 married. I have battled her lack of boundaries about her family for the past 2 years. I understand that they are very close-knit, but she never paid attention to how their dynamics affected our relationship. I experienced every ‘justnofamily’ situation. My food was eaten, showing up uninvited, meddling, you name it.”

The OP’s wife didn’t see a problem at all and blamed it all on her husband.

The OP said, “No matter how many times I told my wife and even told them, they still showed up at random hours. Even if I didn’t run into them, I know she was allowing them to come over. I hated their presence. They would eat my snacks and get on my expensive recliner chair, which again, they didn’t contribute a penny for.

I had a mini orchard that they picked empty. Things got so tense that I blew at her in front of them. They left, we had a fight and I ended up sleeping in a hotel. I warned her many times about being fed up and needing her to support me. She acted like I was demanding that she abandoned her family.”

One day, the OP just had enough and made a painful decision.

The man shared, “Today, I came home to find my BIL’s car blocking the entrance. Not on the side and not even on the driveway, just right in the middle where my only option would be to get on the lawn. I go inside, and he’s laying with his shoes on the couch. I went to our bedroom and packed as much of my belongings as possible and ignored her pleas to talk.

There’s nothing else to talk about. I already called a few lawyers but haven’t received any replies yet. She cried, but at this point, I have no empathy. I don’t even know if I overreacted or if I needed to discuss this in private. I feel defeated and angry, and I also hate her family with my soul.

They knew they were hurting our relationship, and they didn’t care. She knew that I’m a private person who hates being invaded. I helped them because I love her and I didn’t have the temper to let them go to sleep in their car. We don’t have kids, but there are so many things that will be left undone.

I loved her so much, but I just can’t do this. She called me immediately after I left, and I told her that my decision is final. She sounded shaken, but I told her that right now, I despise her and will never be able to sleep next to her again. I’m just coming here because I just want to ask if leaving the way that I did was a bad move, and maybe I should have announced my intention of ending our marriage after her brother was gone.”

Redditors rushed to the comments to share their opinions about the man’s situation.

One user wrote, “Not guilty. You didn’t leave, you escaped. Two years of boundaries being trampled and being taken for granted is a liberty, and now you can put yourself first.”

Another user said, “Not much to say, OP. You’re not in a wrong. You stated all the facts, she knew, her family knew. That is in no way for you to have to exist in your home. I’m glad you left.”

One more user added, “Their behavior is just wild to me. I come from a close-knit family, and none of them would do this to me. When I lived at home with my mom, I had the upstairs, it was her house and she still never set foot in ’my’ space without explicitly asking or if there was something super important. She has keys to my and my partner’s house, and she has never once stopped by unannounced.”

Another person wrote, “Honestly, think about what difference it would have made if you warned her and spoke to her in private. She does not really care about your feelings, your wants and needs, nor does her family. If you had threatened to leave, she would have asked her family to back off temporarily, but they would have just picked up where they left off eventually. This was a conflict you would never have won even if you were able to win a few episodes. I’m sorry.”

And here’s a dramatic story of a woman who had no other choice rather than to kick her pregnant daughter and her 6 kids out of the house, because of how entitled and rude her daughter’s behavior was, despite the fact that her whole big family lived in the mother’s house rent-free.