You did right, you told the truth. Daddy divorced mommy because his mommy told him to. Kids would have found out the truth eventually and they would have been mad at you for not telling them and he might have told them a lie to put you in a bad light. he pushed them away not you. Jackarse. But, you do look amazing loosing 300 lbs of useless male. Good job!!!
My Husband Chose His Mother Over Our Family — I Know Exactly How to Make Him Pay


A woman faces an impossible choice after her husband divorces her to honor his dying mother’s wish, and she must decide how much truth to tell their children.
Here’s what Julienne wrote us:
Hi Bright Side!
I always believed my husband loved me, even with all the tension with my MIL. We have three kids together, aged 7, 5, and 2, and I thought our family was solid. But one evening, out of nowhere, he told me, “My mom is dying, and I have to honor her last wish. I’m divorcing you.” I couldn’t believe it.
I was devastated, left with three kids at home, and back then, all I could think about was revenge, though I wasn’t sure how. During that conversation, before he left, he begged me not to tell the kids the real reason for our divorce, but I went ahead and did it anyway. I wanted him to feel the way I feel now. Now they know, and they don’t want to see their father at all.
Now I’m left with the consequences of my choice. If I hadn’t told them, I would have been hiding the truth from my kids, but telling them has pushed them away from their father. I can’t stop thinking about whether I did the right thing. Should I have protected them from the truth, even if it meant keeping a secret? Or was being honest worth the fallout, even if it risks their relationship with him forever? I still don’t know what the right choice was.
Sincerely,
Julienne T.
Thanks, Julienne! Let’s take a closer look at your questions and clear up the situation.
When telling the truth backfires
Julienne wondered if explaining the full reason for the divorce to her children would help or hurt them. Kids pick up more than we think, and sometimes honesty can create distance instead of understanding. It’s not about lying, but about framing the situation in a way they can handle without feeling like the world has fallen apart.
The cost of acting on anger
In the moment of betrayal, she wanted revenge. Acting on that impulse felt satisfying at first, but the outcome (her children refusing to see their father) showed that choices made in pain can ripple farther than intended. Sometimes the reaction that feels right in the heat of the moment isn’t the one that protects the family long-term.
Finding balance between truth and protection
Now Julienne faces the weight of the aftermath and her own guilt. The key is to recognize that protecting the kids and being honest don’t have to be opposites. Thoughtful communication that considers their age and emotional state can allow them to process the situation safely, even if the full truth is gradually revealed over time.
Now, what?
It’s easy to blame oneself or overthink what could have been done differently. The reality is that these situations are rarely simple. Her husband’s decision was his own, and the way the kids reacted is natural for their age. Understanding that not everything is in her control can help Julienne separate what she can influence from what she cannot. What’s needed for now is to:
- Take small steps to rebuild trust with the kids.
- Explain the situation in an age-appropriate way.
- Reassure them that they are loved by everyone.
- Give them space to process and reconnect with their father when ready.
In the end, there’s no perfect script for situations like this. All Julienne can do now is move forward with patience and compassion, for herself and her children, and trust that healing will come in time. Here’s another story showing just how much a mother-in-law can influence family dynamics, even pretending to be sick to stir up tension.
Comments
She should have talked to the MIL for confirmation. Otherwise husbands announcement seems like theres an other motive.
Not your job to make your ex-husband appear like a good man in the eyes of his children. That's his job. He made the decision to do something that would cost him the respect of his children he needs to live with those consequences. You do not have to feel guilty about it. Quite frankly I hope they're not talking to their grandmother anymore either.
So hubby decided to honor his late mother's wish by divorcing you, but had the nerve to beg you not to tell the kids the reason why?? And you feel guilty about telling the kids the truth anyway?? One, if anyone who SHOULD feel guilty, it's the ex! Two, it's his fault for being a spineless wimp Mama's boy! Three, it's his fault for losing whatever respect the kids had for him! Rather than submitting to his mother's wish, he should have grown a spine and told her no, letting her die in her own bitter delusions while holding onto his family!

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