Tubal ligation.
My Husband Has to Meet 3 Conditions Before I Get Pregnant — He Refused the Last One
Dealing with family planning can be tricky, especially when both partners have different ideas about it. Julie reached out to Bright Side for advice on how to handle this delicate topic in their relationship. She wants to find a way to make both of them happy and find common ground.




Vasectomy is much quicker and cheaper and easier to get. After getting pregnant with my 3rd kid in 3 years, multiple BC failures including the pill and condoms I told him he needed to get a vasectomy. He refused, saying it would mean he wasn't a man anymore. I got my tubes tied 6 weeks after I gave birth because I couldn't get him to agree to get one.
Then we split up and just months later his gf told him to get a vasectomy and he did almost immediately




If you don't want any more children you should have the sterilisation yourself. Anything else is unfair and controlling.
Hey Julie, thanks for getting in touch. We’ve got some tips for you. Remember, it’s super important to approach the situation with understanding and be open to hearing each other out. That way, you can find a solution that works for both of you.
Stay strong in what you decide.
Pregnancy can be really tough on women, both physically and mentally, and being a parent is a huge responsibility that lasts a lifetime. Don’t let your husband pressure you into agreeing to something that doesn’t feel right for you. A good partner should understand where you’re coming from and be willing to compromise. If he can’t meet you halfway, then maybe having a baby isn’t the best choice for now.
Learn together.
Make sure you get where each other is coming from when it comes to having kids and contraception. Your husband might not be keen on getting a vasectomy because he’s worried or has some wrong ideas about it. And you might have worries about other birth control methods and their side effects. Take some time to learn more about these things and then talk about them together to see where you stand.
Find a middle ground.
Think about other ways you can find a solution that works for both of you. For example, if your husband is worried about getting a vasectomy because he’s concerned about having kids later on, talk about the possibility of sperm banking before the procedure. This means you both have a backup plan in case you decide to have children in the future.
Keep in mind that you’re in this together.
During tough times like this, it’s important to remember you’re not on opposite sides; you’re on the same team. Reassure each other that your commitment to the relationship is strong and your love hasn’t wavered. Talk openly and calmly about your feelings to avoid misunderstandings. Planning for a child is a huge responsibility, so it’s normal for emotions to run high.
Considering how tricky your situation is, getting expert advice could really help. Couples counseling offers a safe space for both of you to talk openly about your worries, hopes, and plans for having a child and the conditions you’ve set. A professional therapist can steer the conversation in a positive direction and help you find a solution that meets both your needs.
It’s not uncommon for this kind of situation to happen in relationships: one partner who originally agreed not to have kids changes their mind, which can be tough for the other partner. Another woman shared her experience facing a similar challenge when her partner decided he no longer wanted to stick to their plan of not having children, influenced by his mother.
Comments
I think it's fair. He is talking her into having a child after they both agreed to be childfree. She is compromising her body, he should too.

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